Raising daughters

[coldcanary]

I’ll come straight to the point, I have worries and I think I’m in the right place to discuss them (after a good few years on here I’ve only dipped a couple of toes into to the feminist boards!).
I have a pre teen daughter (yr 7). She recently told me she thinks she’s bisexual - no issue there, she’s doing well in school, a generally happy soul with good friends of both sexes , talks to us about everything and is very comfortable in her own skin. She doesn’t conform to what seems to be currently pushed as gender stereotypes - she can be ‘girly’ at times but it’s very rare.
My worries are really that at some point she’s going to be told that she’s wrong somehow, that she must be a boy because of her interests and the fact that make up, pretty clothes etc are of no interest to her right now (unless it’s a party) and that the fact that she currently has a huge crush on her female friend means that she isn’t who she thinks she is.
Maybe I’m worrying about nothing but I’ve only recently become aware (through here) of the issues surrounding trans issues, groups like mermaids and the pressure young people can face and I really need some resources and advice to give her to make sure she continues to be happy in herself.
Anybody have a handy website I can point her to or give me alternatively a good talking at to let me know I’m worrying about nothing?

Dont rely on outside resources, they are good for information, but approval has to come from you. Keep the lines of communication open, let her chatter to you, let her talk, and make affirming statements of approval;
'its great to see you have friends of both sexes.'
'you are very open minded'.
'I like the way you can listen to both sides of the debate before you make your mind up'.
'Its good that we can talk so openly'.

She needs to develop her sense of self and trust in her own feelings, thoughts and judgements. Thats something you give them every day in small decisions such as what clothes to wear, how to decorate their room to reflect their personality.
Without a sense of self and of self approval, they feel safer to be submerged in the group and to go with the flow.

Our bodies, Ourselves is a book about the female body. Get an older version, the latest ones have swallowed the trans kool aid.
www.amazon.co.uk/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-Book-Women/dp/0671221469/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=Our+bodies%2C+Ourselves&dpID=41GM7HyRJ4L&preST=SX218_BO1&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1517703372&sr=8-5,204,203,200_QL40&dpSrc=srch

Sages fact sheet - common sense, plain English
sages.org.uk/publications/sages-factsheet.html

Thanks for that, she’s a very open person and shares everything with us so we'll keep encouraging that.
I’ll get hold of that book, it looks like a good read.