I've been conflicted whilst researching gender critical theory and trans ideology. Largely I've been confused between the difference in online trans people and the 'real life' trans people I know.
As a lesbian, I mainly know transmen (who previously identified as lesbians) and who without exception appear to fit the ROGD theory. It is through knowing these people that I first became sceptical about trans claims.
This article has helped me understand the difference between the very 'normal' seeming trans women who I can relate to, and the hyper glamorous ones who I feel mock womanhood.
rodfleming.com/jenner-not-the-face-of-trans-women/