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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Taylor Swift positioned as Time Person of the Year?

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Squirrler · 06/12/2017 17:49

Moral courage can be found everywhere. There are stories everyday - large and small - of vulnerable people risking their jobs, their reputations, even their lives, to take a stand against abuses of power. If, to reflect the zeitgeist, Time wants to make it about women standing up to sexual abuse, who would argue against that.

But Taylor Swift? One of the most powerful people in modern music, with a personal fortune of millions... that's a choice for the front cover? What did she risk? What was on the line? A man grabbed her bottom and she won a dollar in court. And this is supposed to be inspiration for women to put their own jobs and reputations on the line?

Do me a favour.

I am not questioning the validity of Taylor’s experience or her story. What I have a problem with is what Taylor is being positioned as the face of a movement by being placed on this cover, because she won a lawsuit. She lost nothing when others have lost everything when they break silence, but don’t get visibility. Just look at Ke$ha, whose abuser was her record label boss. She took him to court and lost everything, including her career. She broke silence when there was zero room for it and got shamed into hiding. He even put a gag order on her. Why is she not on the cover?

Why is Tarana Burke not on this cover, when she’s been doing this work for 10 years? Yes, she is on the inside and gets to tell her story but she deserves to be on this cover, because if there is a face for the movement, hers is it.

What about, say, Terry Crews, who is a man who decided to break silence and that shit was major. In this culture of toxic masculinity, men speaking up about their victimhood is revolutionary.

www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2017/12/time-person-of-year-taylor-swift.html

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LipstickHandbagCoffee · 09/12/2017 15:02

Didn’t know about the post it signs - love it

Nyx1 · 09/12/2017 15:06

thanks Luminaries

I'm pleasantly surprised that anyone's boss allowed them to display these - though in fairness, I think my current one would.

1sttimeunicorn · 09/12/2017 15:07

I loved what she said in court - something like not allowing the lawyer or the bloke suing her to make her think any of what happened was her fault.

I also like what she says about how if a woman serially dates she becomes the focus of negative attention but if a man does the same he is classed as a play boy and seen in a more positive light.

Got to say I’m very much team taylor on this. Putting her on the cover was also bound to be a way to attract more interest in the magazine which with the stories involved can only be a good thing.

Parsleyisntfood · 09/12/2017 15:09

I had this conversation with my Mum. A man “just” touched her bottom. Imagine if it went to court every time a bottom got touched against the wishes of the bottom.
Yes fucking imagine it!
Look at the way Taylor Swift is treated. By you op! She is not worthy because she doesn’t meet your standards. Thank goodness you are not the judge of who is worthy.

Nyx1 · 09/12/2017 15:11

Parsley "Imagine if it went to court every time a bottom got touched against the wishes of the bottom.
Yes fucking imagine it! "

IKR!!!! Wouldn't that be brilliant?

I hate that some people think arse grabbing is just "oh well, what can you do".

Parsleyisntfood · 09/12/2017 15:13

Exactly. Because it’s a crime every fucking time and maybe when the courts and police came to a crushing halt it might prove that pussys are being grabbed all the time and there just isn’t the fucking time to report it.

InvisibleKittenAttack · 09/12/2017 18:12

Plus it's not even like Swift chose to make this into a court matter, she dealt with it at the time by making a private complaint to his employer (who he was representing at the event), they took the decision to fire him, she didn't talk about it publically at the time or since until he decided to sue Swift, making the whole thing in the public eye and a matter for the courts. This isn't nasty Taylor dragging a man through the courts for 'just' pinching her arse, she just refuse to settle nicely (as she was expected too) and counter sued. Frankly, he was the one who made this a public event.

He badly misjudged her that first night by assuming she wouldn't complain to his boss about his behaviour, then misjudged again that she would just want to pay him off to avoid "embarrassment".

This is what she did that was so wonderful, she decided that actually, the person who should be embarrassed about a sexual assault, is the one who committed it.

KERALA1 · 09/12/2017 22:14

Exactly invisible. The gall of the man - suing her! Filthy perve.

Nyx1 · 10/12/2017 11:08

I was completely stunned when I saw there was an actual photo and he went ahead and sued her. What his lawyer said in his defence is quite telling in terms of the ridiculous lengths men will go to justify this kind of behaviour.

Thehairthebod · 10/12/2017 16:20

He thought he would win because it the picture it looks like she 'let him do it'. That she was totally OK with it, just because she didn't turn around and go 'what the FUCK are you doing, get your disgusting hands off my ass' and make a big scene in front of fans who were queuing to see her.

Well he thought wrong didn't he. Prick.

Nyx1 · 10/12/2017 17:55

"He thought he would win because it the picture it looks like she 'let him do it'"

I don't think that at all but there you go.

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