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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Work meetings with men

28 replies

TheDonald · 22/11/2017 19:38

Urgh.

I admit I'm spoilt. I work for a dv charity. All internal meetings and most external meetings are female only.

Occasional meetings with funders and supporters include men who are there to help and are usually prepared to listen.

Today I went to a meeting with commissioners and council / police types. It was quite a big meeting but I was there to tell the room about a project that we'd been running so you would think they might bother to listen and not talk over me.

I'd forgotten what it was like when two people start to talk at once but one (male) just forces ahead. I'd normally stop and apologise as would all my colleagues, and then we'd both get chance to speak. In this meeting the men just carried on every time. They totally dominated even though all the females in the room were more informed and more senior. I barely got a point across, and I'm not the shy retiring type.

How do you manage it if you deal with this every day?

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Datun · 25/11/2017 22:04

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BossyBitch · 25/11/2017 22:09

I've taken to saying 'please stop addressing your points to my employee instead of me, I'm the manager and the subject expert, and he's here to learn'.

They think I'm horribly rude - but also impressively assertive and competent. And they keep on hiring me, so they're apparently capable of surviving female 'rudeness'

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 25/11/2017 22:45

I always just say "may I finish speaking please?" if anyone interrupts me. It does the trick.

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