Can you be a feminist and do these things???

[stripsal]

1. Change your surname when you marry.
2. Become a stay at home mother.

Thanks.

Course you can. 😊

Things like the lack of maternity leave in the USA, is awful, I really feel for women over there- for women to be forced to go back to work so soon- still lactating and recovering from birth. It's like becoming a parent is treated like a hobby, something that should be done in your own time out of working hours. I think thinking you have to go back so soon or not having a choice is not looking out for women's rights

I dare say women who say you can't be a feminist if your a SAHM have good careers, it's easy to spout that crap from an ivory tower. They should try explaining it to working class women who are slogging themselves in factories who would rather be with their babies but can't afford not to be at work.
There's more to being a woman than being just another cog in the working machine, a mere robot denied the right to raise their children.

Yes!!

There is nothing wrong with wanting to look after children, I think some look down their noses at it as being un-feminist

Not really. Just for me I could not reconcile it with not having my own income and having to depend on some one else for money.

Lasswith..
That's fair enough if that's what suits you and I understand how it's desirable to have own income and independence.
I do think motherhood is sometimes looked down upon by society as unimportant.
Not all women find their jobs as rewarding as raising their children.
I am for equality of opportunity, not equality of outcome. It needs to be recognised that some women are not career driven- it doesn't make them lesser women or anti feminist.
I'm not keen on equality feminism- where women strive to achieve what men have while looking down on roles such raising children and forgetting about women's rights such as adequate maternity leave. There are some roles that men fulfil that I don't want either. I am for equal opportunity but not equality of outcome.