Manspreading....

[QuentinSummers]

This article is very interesting and also a great take down.

medium.com/@cvans/the-false-biology-of-manspreading-f789abd709f5

I picked it up off Facebook, sure enough second comment is a trans woman explaining they need to spread so as to avoid squashing their cock and balls

I liked this article, where a woman decided to manspread for the weekend as an experiment. How people reacted to her, and how she felt her attitude shift.

Helps if I give the link, doh!

www.bustle.com/articles/34279-why-do-guys-spread-their-legs-when-sitting-on-the-subway-my-weekend-of-sitting-like

Interesting!

I haven't got time to read the article as am already late for work but DH always sits in a chair with his legs crossed (you know, like a lady would) and the amount of times another bloke has commented on how 'gay' it looks is unreal. He's 6'4, has legs that come up to my waist and always tries to take up as little space as possible.

I think it's just inbuilt in men that you must manspread as much as possible so as to appear manly. DH doesn't let anyone's comments put him off, he finds it comfortable sitting legs crossed and I can assure you that he never complains his male parts are being squashed despite being very, very well endowed.

I have noticed a lot of very tall men are embarrassed by their height and try to take up less space so not surprised about your DH!

Her conclusion was the same one I've come to from observing DP doing inconsiderate things - he just doesn't think about how what he's doing affects other people, and he doesn't notice while he's doing it.

I think this is something trained in, so I'm trying to make sure that my kids do think about how their behaviour effects those around them, and I also point out to DP when he does things (like putting the shower gel on the top shelf for an example from yesterday - he knows no-one in the family but him can reach it, but didn't think, just put it somewhere convenient for him)

DH also crosses his legs most of the time and certainly never spreads.
He's 6' 1", so not super tall and I'm pretty sure he's not embarrassed by his height.
He is very slender, though and tends to not take up space very much in the way a lot of men do.

I've just commented on another thread re this on trains.

I do think that it starts young, mothers expecting girls to sit still and quiet, boys allowed to be boisterous and fill the space because, you know, they're boys.

Maybe one day our when our young people become parents it will become less common.

Quentin DH isn't embarrassed as such, but his mother instilled in him , and his brothers, from a young age that it's important to take steps to ensure that their height (and width, his shoulders are almost half as broad as he is!) doesn't come across as intimidating. He's very softly spoken, particularly when speaking to women, and if he's ever walking behind a lone female at night, he'll cross the road so she doesn't feel anxious. In most other ways, he's a typical 'manly man', but he's always conscious of the impression his body language etc gives.