Help my husband understand feminism

[yogaandwine]

For some reason my perfectly decent, fair husband refuses to accept the need for feminism.

Despite the fact I have been sexually harassed at work and repeatedly refused pay rises which he has argued I should fight for on the basis of 'no gender pay gap'

Despite the fact that his father left his mother for another woman when he was 15 and he has been a staunch protector of his mother and her rights ever since

Despite the fact that he truly believes I'm the best in my field and deserve to be paid the best (even though I don't)

Despite the fact that he acknowledges prone are people it's their skills that matter.

He still reacts venomously to any feminist 'propaganda' or comments that I might make. Tonight we were watching a programme on port making and I commented that there were no women interviewed in over 1 hour of the documentary, the women shown weee just serving tea or sitting pretty and quiet at a dinner party.

My husband was so furious with these comments that he is refusing to speak to me or come to bed with me.

How do I get him to see that everyday sexism pervades people's Norms and changes the way they think?? Help!!

"And then there is blane everything on the patriarchy, positive discrimination, make everything (like an absence of female poet makers) about perceived genre inequality feminism. Maybe he's just tired of your childish obsession."

have you been reading Viz again?

Calling someone's reasoned political view a childish obsession isn't really much of a counter argument. It's just name calling. Like a child.

It's not anyone's job to educate or convert him. And it doesn't sound like he wants to hear it. Sorry. I used to try and persuade men why I deserve to be treated like a human being and it can be utterly soul destroying when otherwise intelligent kind men totally dismiss your lived experiences. In the end I chose to only surround myself with men who see me as equal and everyone else can go fuck themselves.