Raising children child centrically, is just that. You can either reinforce or not reinforce, or simply not have it on your radar at all . It doesn't dictate the way you're going to raise them.
Yes, people get the balance wrong, but the rise of the individual surely has come about from challenging stereotypes, prejudices and preconceptions?
What has the 'rise of the individual' achieved, apart from a difference in clothing and appearance? And a determination that your self expression must, at all costs, be validated.
So I use the correct pronouns and recognise your right to self expression, then what?
Campaigning to encourage girls into stem subjects, is actually doing something. Encouraging boys to cook for themselves, sew up their own clothes, etc, dismantles the roles dictated by the notion of gender stereotypes.
Because whilst you have millennials becoming non-binary and saying they reject things, again, I don't see any real effect happening. Other than an insistence on respect and validation. (Albeit not just for themselves, but for other people's identity, too).
And yet at exactly the same time, the rise of transgenderism is actively reinforcing gender stereotyping.
The notion of a lady brain.
One can pontificate endlessly about concept of transgenderism, but in reality most transwomen will embrace the notion of 'femininity' as much as possible to express their 'inner woman'. But only the bits that they themselves find attractive. Would be great if they maintained they were still male, but no, this desire for femininity must mean they are female.
I see a high level of attention seeking in both these strands of self identity. It has always been my feeling that if someone craves attention, there's generally a good reason for it.
Could it not be that a child centric upbringing leaves a void when they suddenly go out into the world to, say, university? Particularly for the millennial kids who change their gender identity on a regular basis.