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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Everyday sexism rant. Garages and computer shops...

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/07/2017 14:46

I've just come back from the garage, having something fixed on a safety recall. Car in for three hours longer than they said, miles from anywhere with only the coffee machine for company, but hey ho. Reception sexist bloke was patronising from the start when i called to book it in. Had I got the chassis number, if I knew what that was? Yes, you sexist numpty, I do understand that, as it happens. Had to sign a disclaimer form. Was upset I actually wanted to read it, and said 'It wouldn't mean much to me'. Well, actually I prefer to read stuff before I sign it, as particularly main dealership garages are always trying to flog me stuff, and last time dented my car, then denied it....This delightful experience is part of why I hate garages. When I was buying the car, every knuckle-dragging salesmen in the world seemed to be out to bullshit me when I was looking, and the dealership where I bought my car constantly ring me to try and have their overpriced services, upgrade, etc. I keep blocking the numbers, then they find another one to ring me on. I am more 'everyday sexismed' out because yesterday I changed my computer. Asked a relevant question about windows 10 upgrades, and have discovered I have been given a bullshit answer....

So, if I stopped driving a car, and driving a computer, I wouldn't have to put up with this shit, but my mobility and therefore my power would be weakened....anybody else just get fed up with this endless drip drip of sexism? How do you let it go? Do you fill in feedback forms and express this? Grr.

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Marvellousmarg · 27/07/2017 14:53

Me. I am fed up too. When I go to the hardware shop I get this shit. I know way more than dh about diy but they address him not me.

Dh always makes a point of asking me in front of them. Shuts them right up.

Sounds like you are challenging them on their stereotypical viewpoints. Everyone needs to do this.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/07/2017 14:58

You are right Marg...but it's just so....exhausting!

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Marvellousmarg · 27/07/2017 15:02

It is. Recruit male friends and relatives to back you up. Shouldn't have to but it helps and shows them what we put up with!

I'm educating my sons about this so they can challenge it too.

YoureNotASausage · 27/07/2017 15:04

I've a large 7 seater but it's not a mummy wagon (relevant as I don't think I'd have had this comment if it was) but the mechanic just volunteered that 'your car is too big for you to handle' oh fucking really! I've 3, soon to be 4 preschoolers and all their fucking crap to bring everywhere. Also he said 'get your husband to top up the oil every month or so' which I glared at him for (don't think DH knows how). So when he shook his head at the dent in the back light area I sharply told him that that bump and also the scrape on the front bumper was my husband, a man, and not me, the woman. As I can comfortably manoeuvre our 'massive' car without bumping it. I'm absolutely certain he did not take any of what I said on board.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/07/2017 15:08

I find it hard to educate them though Marg. OH has just said to Sexist Nobby in the garage, that I had to leave before too long as I had a hair appointment! True, but really really not relevant....and I can't really get him to understand how giving this info reinforces the idea that my little fluffy head can't cope with technical stuff.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/07/2017 15:13

Yes sausage...I get this. I feel I am wasting time sometimes trying to educate people. Sometimes it might work, but you never know your sucess rate, and 10% success seems a waste of my energy maybe?

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NouveauBitch · 27/07/2017 15:20

You can't be interested in sport either SpongeBob

I was at the Oval last year and was queuing to buy my lunch. The man behind me in the queue asked me if I liked cricket. At a fucking test match I'd pay a fair whack to attend. Unfortunately because he was just a member of the public there was nobody to complain to so I had to be content with a death stare followed by "oh no, I love it".

The way it permeates everything drives me potty.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/07/2017 15:46

Sometimes I just want to stay at home and not speak to anyone, or watch the tv...to avoid it and gather energy for doing it all again the next day. Everyday Sexism Groundhog Day....

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