LokisLover sorry, no you didn't sound sarcastic
I wasn't sure if I was reading your comment in the tone you intended. Some comments are a bit eyerolling (fair enough) and I didn't know if yours was too.
OhtoblazeswithElvira I used to work with homeless young people, I feel I've seen a fair bit, there is always something worse somewhere. Not sure why this felt like a last straw/MN post moment. Maybe because I'm sitting on my comfy sofa, not on the mean streets. 
ElspethFlashman the thing is, lingerie has always been a bit filthy, or there is always that Readers Wives element and if you're sharing with a partner/partners, fair enough. I find the ASOS dressy dresses worse than the lingerie. The filthiness element is now applied across the board, as if it isn't enough to be fuckable in the bedroom, you now should consider your fuckability everywhere you go.
Of course we're all free to wear what we want when we want, I'm not shaming anyone, it is the cynicism of the message. I was an introverted teen and loved being a slightly gothy indie kid, I guess that sort of experience still exists. This Lolita thing makes me cringe.