What do you think of this

[Skutterfly]

Ok so I find the name a little bit cliche porny but i think the general idea is brilliant 🙂 has anyone seen this or even used it?

www.omgyes.com/en/how-it-works

Not sure how to do clickable links as I've not really posted here much

This from the main page doesn't inspire me to look further:

The research shows there are more ways to please than anyone had thought:
CONSISTENCY Keeping everything the same - 6.5 out of 10 women
SURPRISE Defying expectation - 7 out of 10 women.

I'm irritated by the notion of there being this unlocked, semi-mystical paradigm of women's pleasure, which now (pseudo)science can study and spread the gospel about. A paid for gospel that invents twaddle like "combining the wisdom of over 2,000 women" furthering the notion of female sexual pleasure as a quest requiring knowledge from the sacred feminine oracle, here rebranded as "delicious variation" icons. Please.

(Skutterfly, should add that my miffed off tone isn't at all levied at you!)

I liked the idea of collecting information about the most common ways that women like to be touched, and giving them catchy/cool names. Seems like we dont know a whole lot about how the female body works in terms of sexual pleasure, and it appears to be basically a lack of research because surely it's not that complicated?

There are names for a lot of techniques to pleasure men and many men are not shy about asking for them, or judging women on their ability to do them 'correctly' I had visions (if it became mainstream) of these techniques being something that women could ask for in the same way, and maybe it could address the shame many women still feel about asking for what they want in bed. And help overcome the pressure many women feel to act like pornstars to please men, forgoing their own pleasure in the process. I can dream

I'd argue that we do understand female sexual pleasure, biologically, but under patriarchy there is disparity between how men and women express their sexuality and experience (or don't experience) sexual pleasure. I think the positioning of female sexuality as something mysterious or difficult to master and therefore requiring a subscription fee to unlock, perpetuates some of the problems or taboos behind the disparity. I'm not aware of names of techniques for pleasuring men in the same way that this company are defining a particular way of oral sex as "orbiting", and whilst I agree that overcoming shame and the impact of porn on female sexuality is important, I don't think that website does anything to really combat it.

While I agree with regrouted in principle, I've had a series of rather lacklustre lovers recently who have left me thinking that anything that encourages men to do better in this regard is to be welcomed.

I've just had a quick look at the 'techniques', which look pretty much like common sense to me. It seems unlikely that men couldn't just work out what feels good for their partner by trial and error, but experience tells me that many cannot so maybe something like this would help?!?

I rather doubt that the sort of guy who is crap in bed and won't respond to his girlfriend saying "how about trying this?" would actually take the trouble to look at a website like this, specially if it charges for the privilege.

Hmm, yes Hedgehog. I was thinking exactly the same!

...fundamentally it's a problem of attitude rather than technique.

An attitude heavily simplified to sex is something that's done to women for male gratification and it's either irrelevant if she experiences pleasure or it's too complicated to even attempt it.