Did I over react ?

[ifeelcraptonight]

Vague friend. Acquaintance more than friend. We are meeting today with a group of other friends to go for lunch.

I am 52 and female. He is 34 and male. Text convo.

He told me where we were meeting (I don't know the place we are going to) and I asked him where was the nearest place to park.

He told me - I said I knew where that was and could he tell me how far away the restaurant was.

He said best thing was to meet me and walk me as it was complicated to explain.

I said thanks I appreciate that.

And then he texted back.

Good girl.

I have gone postal on his ass and ripped him a new one calling him out on infantilising me and paternalistic and patriarchy central.

Did I over react ?

maybe the 'good girl' was in respect to the 'where do I park', 'how far is it' style questions which seem a little childish

It's childish to ask where parking is available and how far it'd be (so how long it'd take to enable arrival on time) from there to the venue?

perhaps he saw that as you wanting his attention?

Even if that were the case (and I'm not sure how you'd get there from: I don't know the place we're meeting at, so I've got some logistical questions,) that still doesn't make "good girl" okay. Why would anyone think that's the sort of attention a grown woman wants?

Back from lunch. He apologised.

I don't think I was being childish - he texted and said "venue changed. We are meeting at x not y"
And all I asked was "where's the best place to park near there". How is that childish? I don't know the city and he lives there so he would know better than me.

Anyway, he apologised, I accepted it and it's done and over now.

Sounds like an okay outcome then.

He still sounds like a complete sexist, belittling, patronising chump.

If a bloke I didn't know well directed me towards parking at distance from the venue for an evening meal (i.e. It required walking back together) when there are nearer alternative, I might be questioning his motives. He sound like a patronizing twat, regardless.

Yeah he is a prat. I found a car park closer and just met everyone at the bar.

I did, however, introduce them (and him) to the concepts of mansplaining, manspreading and penis portions. 😂😀

I don't think he and I see eye to eye. Perhaps I've given him something to think about, trying to take the positive from it.

Glad it turned out well - gotta dismantle that patriarchy one mansplainer at a time

Btw - penis portions? Is that like how much you can serve as 1 portion when having burned penis for dinner*?

reference to recent troll post. Not something I actually do*

** that often, anyway

Penis portions (I think) is bigger portions for the men.

Aaaahhhh. Yes I am familiar with the concept

You didn't overreact. He was already on thin ice with the "it's too complicated I'd better walk you there" but with the "good girl" he plunged right in. More people should react that way rather than making excuses for arseholes.

Like srsly, is everyone going to get mad over someone saying "good girl"

If a bloke I didn't know well directed me towards parking at distance from the venue for an evening meal (i.e. It required walking back together) when there are nearer alternative, I might be questioning his motives.

This.

While it is possible that he is just clueless about the parking possibilities there and just happens to know only the one he mentioned, this is an orange flag.

Has he tried to meet you alone at other times?

Calling a woman much older than him "good girl" speaks of an attitude that ... won't go away with being called out on its symptoms one time.

Any this thread is a bit old now. Did you resurrect it just to pick a fight?