Best friends.

[Elendon]

Does anyone have a best friend they can absolutely rely on, who is male? I have three good friends, all are female and yet of the three, two who have partners, whom I've known as long as them, I really don't count as good friends. Am I odd?

I have a very very good male friend. We've been friends since our teens and are both now married with children.

I do think it's rare though.

My 2 closest friends, one for over 20 years and the other about 15 years, are male. Both happily married now, and I get on well with their respective wives as they do with my DH.

Would you rely on your friend though? Did he see you through thick and thin? I think if he did then it is rare.

I love my brothers (well two of them), and my son. I do enjoy the company of my friend's partners and never feel unsafe. But I wouldn't rely on them. Often they have relied on me for help and support, which I have given.

I have 3 best friends. 1 female, 2 male , of the male 1 is gay 1 is straight. I had a 4th who was male and gay but he died much too young 18 months ago.

My best friends, as in the people I socialise with / are in regular communication with / couldn't imagine not being in my life are all female. But I know a lot of men (some partners of my best friends, some not) who I feel I could turn to in a crisis.

They each have different strengths, of course: the one who I know would lend me a lot of money is not the same as the one who would help me arrange DH's funeral is not the same as the one who would open the door to me at 2am and give me a bed for the night without asking any questions (I have thought about this a lot...), but that's broadly the same with my female friends TBH

Why do you ask, OP? Has anything in particular sparked this train of thought?