OP I've NC'd to post here. I too am new to 'intersectional feminism' - I've never been actively involved in feminism until I started reading MN after babies. although reading widely since has shown I've always been a quite staunch second waver in outlook. I have been involved in campaigns that are about defending the rights of a racial group and have worked respectfully with people from that targeted minority - obviously they have set the agenda in the campaigns. To me that is right and natural.
My local mums facebook group has become awash with intersectional feminism/identity politics (the two go hand in hand) ideas, although no one actually seems to understand that it is ONE perspective. It is presented as universal and reasonable.
It all kicked off after a post was shut down because some nasty real racist snake posted a comment and an admin panicked and deleted the thread. Discussions afterwards attacked admin (a couple of fairly ignorant well meaning white women) for 'tone policing' and there was a lot of finger pointing, accusing admin of being the real enemy and racist. Forget the woman who posted the original offensive comment!
Some of the (intersectional) mums have flounced and set up their own group, because of the 'racism' on the mums group. The goals of the group state 'you must believe in intersectional feminism'.
I have been doing careful reading and have come to the conclusion that it is dangerous nonsense. I don't believe there is any feminist who would deny the basic concepts of intersectionality. On that everyone agrees. It is harder for BAME women, disabled women etc.
However to be an 'intersectional feminist' is something different. You need to subscribe to the idea that women who are discriminated against in society don't get leadership positions (true, they don't, this is fucked). So 'intersectional feminism' is about letting someone from a discriminated group become the group's (unspoken) leader and set the agenda. What they say goes. You are not allowed to question them on Tumblr Truths they say, or challenge them or seek clarification or even engage them in conversation. They are allowed to be rude and angry about inequality, their sycophantic sidekicks will tell you. You are not if you are a white feminist.
This is what's happened in my group anyway. The 'intersectional feminists' have been posting Everyday Feminism articles and telling mums they are racist if they are unaware of their structural advantages/white privilege. (I've argued that this makes the definition of racism so wide as to render it meaningless but apparently it's a vairy wide spectrum according to some pop culture viral article from America).
A whole lot of mums now are making public declarations lambasting themselves for having been racist but now see the light and want to acknowledge it. The 'intersectional feminists' who are pulling all the strings make 'Hallelujah praise the lord!' type sentiments and urge them to read more on Everyday Feminism.
I feel it is all a bit cultish. Identity politics is often criticised because there is no way of evaluating or checking the quality of the 'leader's' ideas. There was even an unpleasant interaction on the mums page where someone from a significantly disadvantaged minority (the self-appointed leader) questioned someone else who said they were from a minority and forced them to describe their appearance. Apparently this is not uncommon, as subaltern hierarchies need to be established, as the whole concept is hierarchical in nature.
I am rambling and incoherent sorry, have screaming baby, must go.
Here is one reason why intersectional feminism is totally fucked. According to this article, white feminists should support campaigns for halal cosmetics, and FGM is because of British colonialism. I'm usually the first to blame British colonialism for problems but I'm afraid I can't follow this argument. Do we listen to this line or do we take our leadership from Ayaan Hirsi Ali? everydayfeminism.com/2015/01/feminism-fails-muslim-women/