Birth control, splitting the cost

[VestalVirgin]

I just read a column by the awesome Bad Advisor, who tells letter writers what they actually want to hear: thatbadadvice.tumblr.com/

Many of her answers are to letters written to Ask Amy; www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/askamy/ct-ask-amy-ae-0502-20160502-column.html

I was a bit baffled, to be honest, that this woman felt the need to ask if it was okay to ask to split the cost for the pill as opposed to paying for it all herself.

If I am being completely honest, I would expect a man to pay for the pill, completely. (Not that I would ever put myself at risk by taking artificial hormones just so that vaginal intercourse can be had, as I am not that keen on it, anyway. But in theory.)

One person does all the work and takes all the risk, is it not then fair that the other person pay for the "fun"?

If I was more into vaginal sex than I am, then perhaps I would offer to pay half for condoms ... but the pill? Which puts all the risk and responsibility on me? Nope.

Is this attitude (woman should pay for the pill herself, even though she has just this one sex partner) common?

The asker asks how to handle it if the man refuses to pay half. I'd recommend to get rid of him as he clearly wouldn't be worth her time in that case.

[Ludways]

I used to live in the states, I paid for it myself.

[emilybrontescorset]

If it was along term relationship then it would come out of joint funds.
Otherwise I would pay for it but let him know how much it had cost so that he could pay for something else. As suggested up thread he could buy the drinks extra

[EBearhug]

When I was first seeing a German, he offered to pay half. I pointed out I was in Britain, and it was free from the NHS, so I didn't have to pay anyway. But it was clear he was prepared to share the costs if not. It's not a question I'd ever thought about, because it is free here.