So, dp informed me the other night that his cousins dc is coming for a sleepover on x night. We've never babysat anyone else's kids over night, and I'm really introverted to the point I don't like my own relatives and friends to be here too long or I feel really anxious, so haven't asked any of the dc on my side to stay over yet. Dp knows this, christmas day was a very twitchy day for me as we had a few guests here for about 10 hours. But I know I need to suck it up and stop letting my anxiety bother me, the dc is really lovely and gets on well with our ds so I know it'll be a nice night and haven't mentioned it since.
But I've just realised, I'm going to be in charge of the dc, aren't I? Wiping nose, taking to the toilet, making sure they aren't bored or missing mum and dad. Why is it that eg at a wedding, your aunt who's your aunt through marrying your uncle would stop to re buckle your shoe for you, but your biological uncle standing next to her wouldn't even have noticed?
Yes men do way more with their own kids now and take charge more, but why is it with other kids in the family it defaults to woman=nanny? Have a few ideas of things to do (walk with dog then pizza and dvd maybe) but know that dp has probably given it zero thought, and from previous experiences of looking after kids from his side, he will sit reading a magazine while I look after the kids. What I don't understand is why offer to look after someones dc, then take a big step back and leave it to your partner? I would never offer to take a relatives dc, then leave them with dp all day while I sat upstairs reading or in kitchen listening to music.