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Mumsnet demanding that I change my nickname

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AbortionFairyGodmother · 02/06/2015 22:52

Suddenly after posting on several transgender issue related threads, I am getting a note in my email inbox:

"We wanted to drop you a line about your Mumsnet nickname, because we've have had a few reports from other posters about it and how it has caused distress.

Our aim is to make parents' lives easier by pooling and sharing advice and support, and while we're all for free speech, we really don't feel that this nickname is in the spirit of our philosophy.
We're asking therefore if you can change it please. "

Yeah, well, a lot of parents need abortions. My nickname is here because I am an abortion activist who sends abortion pills to women (mostly mothers!!) who desperately need them and are not in areas where they can access them.

Watch this, women. This is what censorship looks like. No "misgendering" people, no getting too far out of line, no being too public about your activism. Because it will offend someone. Best to make my nickname something like KittensAndFlowersLOL, right?

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TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 02/06/2015 23:18

@AbortionFairyGodmother

I'm not transgender. I posted in transgender threads mostly in an anti-transgender phenomenon way; I believe transgender people are not best served by transition. My posts were deleted even when they didn't violate guidelines earlier today without explanation and now I'm being asked to change my nick. This is harassment and silencing by the admins here and I'm calling it the hell out.

Hi

Please be assured, we don't do harassment or silencing- we just don't.
We are always the first to put our hands up if we've made a mistake.

Your earlier post was deleted and we did explain why on the thread - it contained a personal attack.

Hope this clears things up.

WRT to the email - our points, we think, still stand, though it's great to hear that your nickname has such a noble etymology.
Peace and love, all
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TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 02/06/2015 23:34

@AbortionFairyGodmother

By the way, I must say that I'd have been quite willing to change the name if people had approached me directly and told me directly of their feelings. As it is, I can't help but think that what actually happened is that people who disagree with me on other issues have decided that this was a rather clever way to make my day worse, not that people were genuinely affected by the name in a dire way.

Well now, we can clarify that this was absolutely NOT the case.

Afraid we've had to remove the link to your blog because we don't allow advertising in this way, not because we're trying to censor you in any way.

Sorry to hear that you've had a bad day.Kindest to you

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RowanMumsnet · 03/06/2015 10:18

Just to confirm - Abortion Support Network is indeed one of the five organisations we'll be asking YOU to donate to during Mumsnet Giving Week 2015 - which is NEXT WEEK. Donations made via our special JustGiving link will be matchfunded by MNHQ. So please keep your eyes peeled for more info next week and tell all your friends - even if you can only afford a very small amount it will be doubled by the match-funding.

The other four orgs are Rape Crisis, SWAN UK (for undiagnosed genetic disorders), IPSEA (independent advice and legal help for parents of children with SN) and Count the Kicks.

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RowanMumsnet · 03/06/2015 10:21

Oh and thanks to BoreofWhabylon for flagging it up (and just for generally being herself Grin)

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