The thing is the men explain me facts is very readable.
and this man did in fact explain facts to me - he spent some time telling me that i was wrong about things that happen to women, and that women make a lot of fuss and they all have equal rights etc.
he is quite a decent man in many other ways.
i'm not sure he needs me to go gently.
he needs to think more intelligently.
he is an intelligent man with a great big whopping unintelligent gap when it comes to thinking about women.
but if you think i should go gently,
where should i go?
i picked up that new pamphlet by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
but i thought it was a bit slow and unpunchy.
and i thought the racial element would distract him.
he needs to confront race after he has confronted sex (even though the parallels are glaring).
otherwise it will be too much for him.
also he might dismiss the sexism element as being nigeria specific - rather than being part of a continuum of the way women are treated.