How exactly do you become a feminist?

[HonoraryOctonaut]

I've got all sorts of vague ideas of what I believe and how I would like things to be but I don't know enough about the principles of feminism to call myself a feminist.

I want to change the way I think and view myself, and women, and the way I expected to be treated by men.

At the moment, I can honestly say I strongly dislike all men, I don't trust any of them and have tarred them all with the same brush and am guilty of sweeping generalisations etc. it's making me bitter and it's not the way I want to live my life, especially as I am raising boys, so I want to channel it into something healthy and useful.

I was in an abusive relationship for a long time and talked down to, and called names every day. Not a day went by when I wasn't critised for being a woman or didn't have to listen to rants about how inferior woman are, how they are all liars and so on.

But I don't know where to start.

[LightningOnlyStrikesOnce]

leaving the relationship, I mean.