"Mummy I like you better when you wear makeup"

[rcc92]

My son is 4 years old he is the light of my life and he is a fantastic little boy who is generally polite and very intelligent. He has contact with his father and my DP but I would consider myself to be the main role model in his life, and up until recently I thought I was doing well at teaching him about feminism and equality but Recently he has started saying things like "mummy I like u better when u wear makeup" mummy you can have the pink pen.. And general attitude toward other women and girls has changed. I'm worried and unsure how to deal with this behaviour! Help

Just to reiterate for you, the rest of the paragraph....

Women aren't there to be decorative, if you don't find women who don't wear make up attractive, then I suggest you don't look at them.

HTH

Did you just type "ugh" because you were upset at having to see pictures of women without makeup on?

Oh, yes. We are all cheating when we wear makeup so we can go out of the house without making poor men "ugh" or whatever.

Weirdo.

Cross post. Sorry.

I typed ugh because IMHO the pics I saw were very unflattering compared to the ones where they are wearing make-up. So it's no wonder the kid in the OP said what he said.

My opinion is more common than you think. I'm just honest.

"Weirdo."

Name-calling already. I guess debating isn't your strong point.

Badonna, just report. Honestly, they're getting really bloody dull.

I Meant by 'he's hardly sexist' hardly here is used sarcastically, like he's clearly not.

But since you asked, I was talking about a small child with severe learning disabilities. Doubt an adult would talk how I quoted.

I don't really find it sad, I like wearing makeup, for me, no one else, many of my male friends also wear makeup, some of my female friends don't. DS likes people to be the same as they usually are. With me that's makeup, my best female friend without any, my best male friend with some makeup.

Kids are basically as shallow as fuck. There are various studies out there demonstrating that children mostly choose their friends according to how physically attractive they rate them up until the age of 9 or 10. Later on they start to develop more mature and empathic realtionships. This isn't sexist - girls are equally, if not more likely to do this with other girls, because they are conditioned to be aware of the importance of 'good looks'.

BTW, I do encourage my 18 year old DS to wear a discreet bit of concealer on any humungous zits he might have lurking when he goes out. But then he has ASD and isn't terribly clued up about teen cultural norms.

With the pink pens I see your point and as others say you can gently steer him

But the make up ? Brutal child's honesty there I am afraid !!!!!