I am single with a 5 year old and there seem to be any number of suitors who seem to think they are the man i need to be with because they will treat me right. My problem is that i have been raped multiple times, abused, abandoned (not unreasonably because it is their right to choose whom they spend their time with, but its still disappointing), molested by my father and brother and stolen from cheated on and given an STD and lied to. I am currently not emotionally available and am seeking counseling because i don't want to be this way forever but i cant just have anyone around my daughter and i don't want to hang out with potential suitors with my daughter. I work somewhere near 60 hours a week and try to make my self available to my daughter when i am not working or practicing Yoga as my physical care of my self. I find my self preferring to sleep and clean in my free time before i spend time with people i am not comfortable enough with to include in these activities. I have a guy trying to "force" him self into my life by telling me i cant persecute him for the crimes of others which i believe to be true but i think he is misunderstood as to what is going on. I don't believe i am emotionally available or ready for a relationship, of which he wants to be serious and says he is ready for long term with kids. Mind you this guy i had an innocent short month long relationship with in my freshmen year of high school and have not talked to him since then much, i am now 25 and he came into my life insisting that he has been interested in me since high school but now he was ready (mind you i had no idea till now) and i just don't know if the way i am feeling is justified and i also do want to give proper consideration to other points of view. I just feel like there is some patriarchal privilege in his feelings and im not sure if im right in saying so.