Are You Depressed About George Clooney's Marriage?

[NickAndNora]

Ok, I do find the whole thing a tad depressing but not for that reason . It's annoying that the entire media thinks I should be slitting my wrists because a handsome actor I mildly liked in a few things is marrying someone else. I also find it irksome that playboy types realise they are hurtling towards their twilight years and think 'Oops, I was forgot to have a family', so they set about finding a respectable consort. I also suspect that we still live in a world where men, especially public figures, compartmentalise women into the ones for fun and the ones for marriage. Finally, I find the whole spectacle of the media event marriage a bit 'off' and more like a PR exercise.

The way the media have been reporting this in the last few weeks implies that all women should want to be Amal Alamuddin right now. I can imagine some having career-envy about Amal but, to me, the idea of being the chosen one for George's settled years isn't quite the coup the media want it to be. Is the whole thing romantic and George the ultimate prize, or am I just a cynical and twisted jealous feminist?

I think what I am trying to articulate (very badly) is that we are supposedly meant to madly jealous of this marriage, but what I actually think is 'Oh, he's had his fun and, now that time in his life is coming to a natural end, he's settling down as a respectable married man.' As a woman I want to be part of the fun too, I don't want to be the person who lends respectability. Is this making sense?

I don't get it myself. Somebody I don't know, have never met and never will has got married. How does this possibly have any effect on my life?
I don't find him attractive but even if I did, I am a grown woman I don't go around habouring dreams I am going to be swept off by a film star.

I used to find him attractive, but I am nonplussed about him getting married. Are we supposed to be enraged or something that he hasn't chosen to marry me?!?! Can't be arsed to get the energy up to be enraged to be honest. And haven't bothered to read anything about GC's marriage either.

On the other hand, when a gorgeous young woman gets married, say Scarlett Johanssen for example, there is no corresponding "Guys, she getting married! You'll have to strike her off your list now!" Double standards yet again.

It is odd. Very odd.

I don't go around habouring dreams I am going to be swept off by a film star.

Ah, but bluejeans how will the media outlets ever manage to sell you a women's magazine if you don't?

No one's really sad about it though are they?

I think it's all tongue in cheek, if your life is actually affected, you have major problems.

And the whole of the sleb world is strange, and false,I pay no mind, it's not real life.

Is the marriage just for show? Is he a playboy? I got the impression he was one of the (few) nice guys and that was why he was so popular, not his looks, or not just his looks. Which is why I agree with the OP and I'm very happy for them both and hope that they can enjoy family life together.

When I first read he was dating her I thought lucky him.

She's a very intelligent and well respected woman and he's marrying 'up' by marrying her. He comes across as intelligent enough to me and very likeable but she's the 'star' here.

I don't want to go overboard but with their money, influence and intelligence as a couple they could have a real impact.

Looking forward to the bit where they adopt some children, personally.

I am depressed about it if the rumours are true, he's gay but maintains a heterosexual facade as he thinks his career will be affected if he comes out.

Otherwise I really don't care. Hope he's happy.

I'm not actually sad about the marriage, just about the way the media have reported it, the general aging playboy and younger woman thing, and the whole 'Phew, he married a proper one and not a lingerie model' vibe in the way the media are talking about it. They are making it sound like a wife is a man's personal ambassador, rather than someone to love and respect and have good times with.

I'm sure I heard that he's thinking of going into politics (was on R4 so it must be true ) so who better to have by his side than a highly respected international lawyer by his side.

Cynical? Me?!

The only thing I'm depressed about, is someone as intelligent and successful as Amal Alamuddin, will now simply be given the label "George Clooney's wife" by facets of the media. It isn't like she's done anything else of note is it?!

And personally I think she could have done better! Still, if it's all real then I hope they're very happy together.

Well of course she'll be labelled as GCs wife in the media, as she isn't a film star herself. I can live with that.

This does go both ways though. I remember reading an interview with the actor Ralf Little and the interviewer set him up to gush over how sexy Kylie Minogue was. Ralf said something like she's a nice person but I prefer not to be told who to fancy. This was at the height of Kylie madness, when all men were assumed to be madly in lust with her.

George Clooney is a similar case. It's assumed we all fancy him. Which in itself, is a turn off.

I agree though about the double standards about marriage. Boy bands etc are told strictly by their management not to have well known girlfriends or to get married. The fans will go off them if they do. But men aren't expected to know or care if their lust objects get married.

Perhaps this reflects the way men and women see celebrities. Men think, I'd shag her. Women think, I'd marry him.

Being known just as anyone's wife is unacceptable, especially when you are as brilliant and talented as Amal Alamuddin.

She has been involved in some of the biggest human rights trials of the last 15 years and is a highly respected QC. She is marrying a man, who while a decent actor, isn't Laurence Olivier.

So, no, not depressed about the marriage, just about the fact that yet another talented woman will be forever cast in her husband's shadow.

Never understood the appeal of him.

www.thebusinesswomanmedia.com/amal-alamuddin-marries-actor/

Love this!

Aren't they just joking? You know tongue in cheek? Easy fillers?

Great link micah . I actually read yours, whereas I wouldn't bother to read any of the others.

Oh that article is good micah! Especially the bit about him seeming a bit clingy as there is barely a photo of her without this man in it

"As a woman I want to be part of the fun too, I don't want to be the person who lends respectability." Yes me too! (Not that anyone would ever describe me in RL as respectable!)

And I agree with Puffins about her now being the wife of GC . She really does sound awesome (an over used phrase I know!).