In a way, I'm pro life, I guess. I am against the death penalty and war and to be perfectly frank, really, really dislike abortion. It makes me extremely sad and always has done. I especially find abortion after 24 weeks abhorrent. I don't hate women, and I would gladly adopt a child who was unwanted by its parents.
I cannot forsee any situation in which I would have an abortion. When I was raped as a teen, I thought I was pregnant (late period die to stress etc). Never considered abortion. When I got accidentally pregnant at a most inconvenient time in my 20s, never considered abortion. When I was pinned to the ground with nausea for seven months during my pregnancy with my second child, never considered abortion. I have never been told that I am carrying a fetus with a disability, but I plan to adopt a child with one, so I wouldn't consider abortion in that case either.
For me, it is hard to see the difference between a fetus who is 8 months old and an infant delivered prematurely at 8 months...just, one you are allowed to kill and one you aren't. One is wanted and one isn't. It worries me that the idea of person hood in this case is defined by whether or not someone is wanted or not. There are thousands and thousands of children in my country right now who are in care, whose parents do not want them, but they are people with rights all the same. There are all sorts of people who are not wanted by anyone. People do not exist because someone wants them, because they can be useful in some way to others.
I have had many people tell me that I can't be a feminist and have pro-life leanings, but to me it is a feminist issue. How many women would not have the abortion if they felt the father would step up? I personally know a few who didn't want the abortion but didn't feel they could raise the child alone, and knew the father would offer no practical or financial assistance. I also know women who were bullied into their abortions by men. And I know women who have had one because if they didn't they wouldn't be able to continue school, or their career...why is there nothing in place to help them?
So, all of that. But.
I read a sentence some time ago that said "No woman wants an abortion like she wants a vacation or a new car. A woman wants an abortion like an animal wants to chew its leg off to get out of a trap."
And I believe that. I truly do. I don't want women to get abortions, but not allowing it under law isn't going to work. It never has, and there is no compassion in it. What I would rather spend my time doing is looking at the reasons why. Do we need better sex ed? Easier access to contraceptives? Stricter laws against deadbeat dads? Programs to help women raise children and go to school? Better help for women living in domestic violence? Education for men on what women actually go through during pregnancy? Free sterilization for people who truly do not want children, and no turning them away because they're young and "might change their minds"? Better schools and opportunities in general for girls everywhere? Better social programs?
Because I'll tell you, I'll help with any of that, any way I can. I'd die before picketing an abortion center and I'd die before aligning myself with the pro lifers in my country, who are oh-so-concerned that women carry to term, but at the same time are trying to slash programs left and right that might help those women after the children are born.
So, anyway. It's 2a.m. here and I'm typing on a rather temperamental phone, so you'll have to excuse this rambling, typo strewn mess. I know my views aren't popular.