'So I don't think it's quite fair to blame women who find themselves in this situation, really'
In my mate's case, she had doubts about his behaviour and even described him as 'chauvinistic' to me long before they got married but she went ahead anyway
He is indeed a total plonker and I really don't know what she sees in him. I waver between feeling desperately sorry for her and wanting to give her a good shake!