talking to 10 year olds about pornography.

[julesrose]

Have just heard from the school that a couple of year 6 kids have seen pornography online. School, in a letter to parents, reiterated again about internet filters and parents responsibility etc etc. It seems the school have talked to the children though not clear at all what was said. My DD and her friend who came over asked 'what is pornography.'
I am struggling to think about what to say, and how to explain what pornography is, to a 10 year old.
If I say it's pictures and videos of people having sex, then surely she'd wonder what was so terrible about it. What is an age appropriate way of explaining that it isn't a good thing for children to watch it, that it's exploitative and is fundamentally different to normal loving sex.

I think, as a matter of some urgency, you need to find out what approach the school adopted.

It's safe to google "how to talk to primary children about porn" and there are a number of good sites returned. I think it mug help,if you read a few of those, and pick the messages you think your DD will respond to best.

I do not think you should attempt to tackle this subject with someone else's child, but you might want to tip off your DD's friend's parents that the subject came up.