boob job dilemma

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Help please with a dilemma!
I have uneven boobs - it's really obvious as I'm quite small - AA on one side, C on the other. They've been like this since I stopped breastfeeding 3 years ago and I've been telling myself they'll change but they just aren't going to now! I cannot get a bra that is comfy 'off the shelf' even with pads/chicken fillets etc in - have literally tried every brand :( At the minute I am wearing mastectomy bras with a foam fake boob pad on one side which are comfortable and give me a nice look under clothes, but I miss my cleavage and being able to wear low cut tops and generally feeling sexy about my boobs. I used to love buying nice underwear - I now have 3 bras, and they are basically similar to nursing bras, so not exactly slinky! It does bother me especially in the bedroom although my husband doesn't care and has categorically stated that he is happy with them how they are. I mentioned it to my GP who said I can be referred to plastic surgery, and he's referred me for a consultation. Thing is I feel a bit uncomfy about it all. Part of me would love to have a boob job and have boobs again, to be able to wear a swimming costume without feeling embarrassed, to wear a low cut top, to wear strapless tops or dresses, but part of my thinks it sends the wrong message to my kids, that there is something 'wrong' with my body, and that the changes that happen post babies make a womans body somehow something that needs to be 'put right' when I fundamentally disagree with this- I have no problem with my stretchmarks etc. I just wish I had boobs that matched. Thoughts?

Getting your boobs done because they are so obviously mismatched is not the same as getting them done to look like a plastic fantastic barbie in my opinion. Get them done if you want to. You are smart and aware and when the time comes to explain to your kids why you did it, just be honest.

Why be unhappy with it when modern medicine and surgery can make it better?

I think that the vast majority of people, male or female, who had a physical appearance that was uncommon and that was going to be noticed by many other people would want to change it or do things so as not to draw attention to it. It takes a very confident person to be completely comfortable with something like that.

I think it is more a question of the pros and cons of the surgery and repeat surgeries in the future compared to the pros and cons of a restriction in clothing and possibly activities like swimming that you have at the moment. Only you can weigh up which is the better option from your own experiences. Could you get any advice from people who have had the surgery as to what their experiences have been?

Incidentally, there are ranges of nursing bras that have a lingerie style.

I'm open to being convinced otherwise, but I don't think you'd be sending a bad message to your dc if you had a boob job. You have a very clear reason for wanting one, and while I'm all for women accepting their bodies however they are, I also totally understand a woman wanting to have 'even' boobs. I think there's a clear difference between your situation, and women wanting to have a boob job because society bombards her with Jordan-esque images of enormous boobs being attractive.

Presumably you children are quite young if you only stopped bf 3 years ago? I would guess they wouldn't think a lot about it. I got a rather unsightly varicose vein in pregnancy and I had that removed, because, frankly it looked nasty. The dc didn't even question it.

Yes, I think I'd equate this more to having one ear that was much more sticky-out than the other - clearly there's no clinical necessity to make your appearance more symmetrical but if it can be corrected at relatively low risk (remembering no surgery is risk free), it's worth exploring further.

The choice of implant versus falsie is very similar to the one anyone who's had a load of teeth taken out has to weigh up (my DH is going through this now). Personally in both cases I think I would opt for the falsie but that isn't for everyone.