Fucking hell, Nigella picture, WTF? [includes links to upsetting images]

[BoffinMum]

twitter.com/suttonnick/status/346017840106704898/photo/1

Tomorrow's Sunday People cover. Where do we even start with this?

[KristinaM]

Years ago I had a bF who was violent to me. When were on holiday abroad and eating in the hotel restaurant, he behaved just like Nigellas husband in these photos. He stormed off up to our room and I sat alone trying not to cry, scared to follow him.

A group of women at the bar saw me alone and invited me to join them. One took me aside and said she had seen what happened and asked me if he was abusive. O course I'd never seen it that way -I just thought he had a bit of a temper and thought it was my faulty for winding him up,that I should be more sympathetic and understanding of his problems etc

She told me she was a women aid worker/volunteer and , to cut a long story short,to LTB. When I returned to the UK I got some support and I did leave. I'm forever grateful to that women. It it wasn't for her I might have stayed with him for years , got married or had kids with him

I got out when I was young , had no ties and before I was seriously hurt.not everyone is so lucky

[RoooneyMara]

Thanks Trib - no, I didn't mean Nigella is Catholic. I'd never talk about her so dismissively for a start.

[yamsareyammy]

Ah yes, I seem to remember that she is of Jewish descent.
I wanted to say to her, if she ever reads this, that it is ok to seperate from him. She doesnt have to divorce him if she doesnt want to, but seperating is fine.

[OliviaMMumsnet]

Ahem

[MadBusLady]

We are fine! It's the "Can't believe so many women are defending Saatchi" thread that looks like it might kick off a bit.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

The BBC news have just reported that she and her children have left the family home. And that Charles Saatchi has said it was a 'playful tiff'.

[Northernlurker]

If that's a playful tiff then I guess the Battle of Waterloo was a small disagreement over a bar bill between a Brit, a Prussian and a Frenchman?

[NaturalBlondeYeahRight]

Isn't it funny how absolutely no one (ex wives/friends/family etc) is defending CS? Says quite a lot I think.

[tribpot]

I thought Nick Griffin was defending him? Although as the saying goes - 'with friends like these .. '

[piprabbit]

I don't think Nick Griffin was actually defending CS - just chipping in that he (NG) quite fancied groping NL, you know, just in case anyone thought that was interesting or appropriate.

[NaturalBlondeYeahRight]

I thought NG just made a horrible joke, maybe I hadn't seen all of it.
I meant people who really know him though, for example my last serious partner before DH cheated and so got dumped for being a twat. He was lovely apart from that . If he was accused of something similar I would say 'well that never happened to me in x years'. Maybe that's too simplistic.

[Northernlurker]

I wish people would stop abbreviating Nigella to NL. Usually that means me. I've had several funny turns reading posts with that in since Saturday but the idea of being groped by Nick Git Griffin was the final straw!

[piprabbit]

Sorry Northern - I can see why that would be a shock.

[Northernlurker]

It's set me right back I can tell you!

I may be suffering from some sort of fear of groping fascists now......

[mummy2benji]

Ugh just read Cristina Odone's article in the Telegraph as mentioned above. Of public reaction to the photos, she says "how can Charles Saatchi read such comments without feeling accused and convicted of a foul crime?" Uh, how about, don't-throttle-your-wife-in-the-first-place Charles Saatchi, and you won't have to face public criticism. What a pathetic piece of writing.

[piprabbit]

Randinicophobia.

[jollyhappy]

yamsareyammy thanks for pointing out the link of CS and
Christine Odone.

I really really hope Nigella gets out.

[yamsareyammy]

I now automatically think that if a "top" person is defending bad behaviour in another "top" person, that is because they know each other.
So I just googled the two names.

When I was young and naive, I could not understand how a famous person ended up going out with or meeting another famous person! [this was pre celebrity magazines].
Now I realise the opposite is true. That they are all mixing with each other.

[Amazinggg]

Thanks for the email address of how to complain to the Guardian - done.

I'm as lefty as they come, read it daily, and am sickened that they don't give domestic violence proper treatment. It's fucking disgusting. Equality for all eh Guardian, not wives though

[FairPhyllis]

Charles Saatchi has accepted a caution for assault: Telegraph

So it wasn't just a 'tiff' then, was it Charles?

[Chubfuddler]

Good.

[Chubfuddler]

Good.

[duchesse]

Good comment in the Express.

[MarshaBrady]

Pleased it has changed from playful tiff to cautioned for assault.

[Northernlurker]

That is a good piece in the Express Duchesse. I would never want to someody to endure what Nigella has this weekend but at least the publicity over this issue has shone a spotlight on abuse in relationships and there has been plenty of comment drawing attention to issues why women don't 'just leave'. There's been a lot talked about control and the structure within which abuse occurs and that can only be helpful for women. Of course we have the idiot Odone et al too but at least they've been challenged and the fact that he has been cautioned is the clearest indication of what really went on. Anybody else's husband been cautioned for a 'playful tiff'? Nope, mine neither.