If WOHM are pawns of the patriarchy, why does that make the husbands of SAHMs? Are SAHMs content to live off the labour of their own pawns but condemn those of their own sex who seek to make an honest living?
My point is, I don't give a fuck how you raise your kids or what you do for a living. However several people on this thread seem to think I am "letting the side down" by not getting a job because I am pawn of the patriarchy, my reply is so is anyone working in the system. The difference is that my family chooses to only have one person participate and only because to opt out would mean to live in abject poverty. Is that difficult for you to comprehend?
No one is belittling you or your choices, a few people have said they stay home because they dont want others raising their children, this has only ever been said in response to people belittling their choices. I don't care what you or your partner do, genuinely I don't. You seem to have an odd in interest in how my family runs. There must be certain things at your job that you don't delegate right? That you only trust yourself to do? For me that's child care. For many parents that is child care.
Dh can go to work happily knowing that he has someone he trusts implicitly with his children, I know exactly where my kids are and who is dealing with them if anything it saves my mental health.
As for school, that will only be from 8:30 until 2:30 and then I will be with them until bed time. Dh sees them an hour a day just before bed. He hates that, but unfortunately until flexible working hours and people caring about life outside the home become the norm that's his lot.
As I have been saying for 17 pages now, getting every human who can physically work in to the system isn't going to improve things, you do understand that don't you? It will just mean more people working for less money. That obviously won't matter to those of you who are high earners, but to the fucker on the minimum wage vying for a job against another 100 people it will.
Honestly there is such a massive disconnect between some of you and the real world for the majority of women and it is the reason so many women feel feminism cant speak for them.
Would my dh be a sahp? He would jump at the chance, unfortunately he has 3x my earning power. SO I could work and he could stay home and we'd live in poverty, but hey as long as I am being a good feminist. I could also continue in my minimum wage job eating in to our family earnings by paying more than I earn to pay for child care in order to prove my dedication to the cause, but frankly only an idiot would think that was a good idea.
Now what I often hear is that, it's worth taking that monetary hit for the first couple of years because eventually you will be making shed loads right? Guess what.. the fucker at ASDA will never make shed loads, even if they move their way up to management. no they wont.
What I do think will improve things is changing the idea that working outside the home is the only thing anyone can do of value.
That means having more men working from home. Which starts with people like you respecting the position so people choose to stay home. It also means worrying about the real problems that still haven't been solved by feminism like the pay gap. More women making more money means more men will stay home.
Now stop being so defensive and listen.