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Am I a bad feminist...

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GingerPCatt · 01/03/2013 17:30

For not painting my son's room pink? He's 20 mo and his favorite crayon is a purple/pink. I've asked him what colour he wants his room and he points at a bright pink. If he was a girl I wouldn't care and that bothers me. I don't worry that he'll catch gay or anything. I don't care who he wants to love when he's older. I just don't want to make the effort and then in a bit he changes his mind. And honestly, I think the family will gives a bit of stick about it. Hmm

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NaturalBlondeYeahRight · 01/03/2013 17:35

I wouldn't trust ANY 20 month'er to choose the colours of my walls!! Pick something you like instead- problem solved.

Trills · 01/03/2013 17:40

I think you'd be a bit mental to let a 20 month old choose anything that can't be undone in under an hour.

Pink is irrelevant.

VerySmallSqueak · 01/03/2013 19:18


If I was asking him what colour he wants his room,I'd be prepared to do whatever colour he wants! He could choose any colour then change his mind in 5 mins at that age.

Do a funky pink feature wall.

VerySmallSqueak · 01/03/2013 19:20

And,no,you're not a bad feminist!

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub · 01/03/2013 21:12

I feel your pain, Ginger. I do "test" any pink choice more than any other.

FarelyKnuts · 01/03/2013 21:45

Hmm. At a similar age when moving my DD into her big girl room I actively avoided pink :o But then I gave her no decision in the colours and just painted it how I thought it would look nice and age well with her, so not too babyish either. Its pretty gender neutral as it happens Lime green and burnt orange which looks better than it sounds Wink

OneHandFlapping · 03/03/2013 17:35

Paint it yellow or something and decorate with pink stickers?

GingerPCatt · 04/03/2013 08:40

Thanks for the messages. I think we'll paint the room a pale green with animal stickers.
I just am trying to be conscious of treating him differently than I would a dd.

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AlanMoore · 04/03/2013 11:13

I'd paint it off white and let him choose a pink duvet set. Agree with the pp who said they wouldn't let a toddler choose something so difficult to change!

AlanMoore · 04/03/2013 11:24

Just realised what topic this is in Blush

To expand a bit more, I have a daughter and a son. 'Big' stuff is gender neutral as far as possible and they can have what they want for more transient things.

In priniciple I believe they can choose what they want but in practice society is horribly sexist still, so while I have no qualms about baby DS having pink shoes, for example, I wouldn't let my daughter have a buzz cut until she is old enough to understand and deal with the negative comments etc it might attract.

I wouldn't let them have their bedroom that pink you're on about OP, cos their room is tiny and it gives me a migraine! Pale pink fine though and they do have a horrible pink duvet that DD picked.

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