Totally agree with you Writehand - it's important that we understand feminism as simply believing in equality for human beings, regardless of gender, race, sexual orientation or other factors. I teach at a university and use a lot of feminist theory in my courses. Young female students so often will refuse to identify as feminists, saying 'I believe in equality, not the superiority of women.' The minute they realism that they are in fact feminists, they don't feel so bad about using the term! The term's perhaps not helpful. Students ask why there's the 'fem' part of the word if it doesn't just refer to women. I just tell them that, when the term was coined, it was originally a concern of women because women had so far to go to gain anything resembling equality. Words' meanings change over time, I tell them. Think about 'hysterical' - originally referring only to those with wombs (ie women), now used in common parlance to refer to anyone, regardless of gender.
And, may I just say, your DS sounds like an awesome young man. More power to you and your family!