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Would it be OK to have a (light hearted) thread about

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HalloweenNameChange · 30/11/2012 20:22

the embarrassing unfeminsty thoughts we sometimes catch ourselves having?

I keep scanning the covers of rubbish glossies newspapers to see if Kate Middleton is pregnant yet Blush and I will be very excited when she is.. Double Blush I know she is not a breeding horse.. I just can't help myself.

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greenhill · 03/12/2012 20:28

My DM dropped down to 5 stone with hyperemesis when she carried my DB, KM has my sympathy, once I saw the chubby cheeks last week and the new haircut I had wondered about potential pregnancy too. I expect her every move will be detailed now and her clothes discussed even more than before, there must be a tremendous amount of pressure in that situation i.e. Royal and pregnant.

I think being in the public eye must be dreadful.

scottishmummy · 03/12/2012 21:10

i dont think being in public eye as rich pampered royal is dreadful
pg slogging it out in a scheme,winter approaching,now that is dreadful
it never fails to amaze me,this och its a hard life for them royals. no it isnt.at all

TeiTetua · 03/12/2012 22:07

And afterwards, the paparazzi will be falling over each other trying to get a lens pointed at her crepey tummy.

kickassangel · 03/12/2012 22:36

Hi. My name is KickAss and I have a problem.
I am relying in dh to unscrew the rusted pipes from the washing machine AND I immediately googled royal news after clicking on this thread.

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HalloweenNameChange · 04/12/2012 02:39

ohmygodohmygodohmygodroyalbaby!!!!

Actually scottish I couldn't think of anythign worse especially so early in a pregnancy than everyone being desperate to know your business. I wonder if they had trouble conceiving/miscarriages in their past as it has taken them this long to push out a royal heir in the first place. Just think it would be a horrible pressure and the fear when you are first pregnant and the devastation of everyone one in the world knowing if it all went wrong would be horrible :(

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ComradeJing · 04/12/2012 06:05

I always say 'I'll have to check with my husband' when I don't want to be pressured into making a decision.

Last week a taxi driver asked me how much our house cost (I said we had just bought in the area) and because I was too Blush to say 'its none of your business' I said, 'I don't know, my husband bought it.' HmmAngryBlush

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 05/12/2012 09:22

HNC they've been married for about 18 months. Maybe they've had trouble conceiving, maybe they haven't, but it doesn't seem a long time.

Since I remembered this elsewhere, I'll put it here - I wouldn't buy DS1 a princess dress for dressing up because I was worried he'd be teased, he'd go off it, I'd cause ructions (not with DH but with other friends and family) if I stood up for him wearing it. Sad with myself.

blonderthanred · 05/12/2012 11:11

Yep to unfeministy interest in Royals, letting DH take out bins and dubious films (really enjoyed Pretty Woman the other night). I also watch all those news/comedy panel shows with no female guests. Agree though that Austen is brilliant and Austen industry has completely lost all sense of irony in the novels. So many people are astonished when I tell them that the "truth universally acknowledged" is not said with a straight face.

However my main confession is that when we see DMIL, I go a bit Stepford and start cleaning/ironing/feeding DH so she won't think I am not looking after her son. I mean wtf??! She is not like that, I am not like that, DH is not like that! But it still creeps in.

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta · 05/12/2012 17:35

I would also really like to be thin Blush and have bigger boobs.

MsGoldblum · 06/12/2012 13:08

Oh agree with obsession a mild interest in the Royals. I do sometimes find myself coveting Kate's swishy hair and all of her beautiful dresses etc. Xmas Blush

I do hope that the Great Feminist On High will forgive me...

OrangePanda · 06/12/2012 22:11

me = so pleased that their having such a beautiful child. best news of this year. its so gorgeius.

kickassangel · 07/12/2012 00:05

hmm - is liking royalty non feminist? I know they are phenominally privileged but we do at least have a queen and they will be changing the constitution so that it's first born gets the throne. In fact, the UK seems to do quite well if it has a queen (prob cos they live so long). It's definitely not even vaguely socialist or republican, but if you're capitalist/imperialist but believe in m/f equality then the royalty does seem to treat the females in a similar way to the males.

the press aren't as interested in the suits as the dresses, it's true. but the royals themselves seem ok giving women power, even if they don't like anyone lower down the socio-economic ladder than themselves.

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta · 07/12/2012 01:38

I don't think the royal gossip thing is unfeminist, just the "hurry up and get knocked up" thing is unfeminist or the constant obsession with her/hair/dress/weight/and sister's bum

kickassangel · 07/12/2012 03:01

yeah, the pressure about getting pregnant must be awful for them. i think it's a bit of a stereotype that little old ladies love the royals. i don't really care about them either way, but sometimes like doing something unexpected just to make people think before they pigeon hole me. I'm such a middle aged mumsie type, but then I do 'radical' thing like teaching a whole anti-cinderella unit and people aren't sure which 'box' to put me in. hah!

I like that there isn't/shouldn't be a typical feminist. you can believe that all people are equal without having to look/dress a certain way.

OrangePanda · 07/12/2012 07:22

Why would a feminist be anti-Cinderella? Doesn't all girls want to be her? She's so pretty and ends up a princess

AbigailAdams · 07/12/2012 07:47

Yes all girls want to be pretty and end up a princess. That is our worth in life Hmm

namechangeguy · 07/12/2012 11:59

I think that is missing the point of this thread, Abigail. People are confessing secret wishes that they know don't stack up with their beliefs.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 07/12/2012 13:07

That's not how OrangePanda's second post read to me, NCG, but each to their own.

Xenia · 07/12/2012 14:05

The femniist issue is (a) if she has a girl it will inherit the throne so that is really good news and (b) it is a huge pity he didn't marry a leading female surgeon and she doesn't work - terrible example to the nation.

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta · 07/12/2012 14:09

Yeah, I found the post a bit confused as she said "why would feminists be anti cinderella"

Not, "orangepanda loves cinderella" iyswim..

But, and hope I don't offend I suspect OrangePanda is not a native English speaker so may just be the wrong turn of phrase.

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta · 07/12/2012 14:12

She did work xenia but then stopped working when she became Duchess to help with Royal stuff. That is her job now. Unless you take the view that none of the royals work

LineRunnerWithBellsOn · 07/12/2012 14:14

I use 'twat' as an insult.

AbigailAdams · 07/12/2012 14:36

Yep so do I LineRunner. It is easier online because I get to think before I write (most of the time!!). And I hate it but it still slips out. Mind you I have a bit of an issue with swearing full stop Hmm - as in I do too much of it!

TrillsCarolsOutOfTune · 07/12/2012 14:51

A "top surgeon" would be a bit older than Wills and might not find that she had anything in common with him.

Xenia · 07/12/2012 15:03

She never had a proper job. She messed around doing very little after her degree. Plenty of men from Eton marry bright women with great careers. At 30 she could be well into a career by now. Her mother and her mother in law are much better examples to women.