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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Fighting the battle at home....

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rogersmellyonthetelly · 20/07/2012 09:04

Last night i was trying to teach my 6yo dd and 7yo ds to sew. I think this is a useful life skill. Ds was really struggling, and dh said its ok, you don't have to do it if you don't want to, you are a boy and boys don't have to sew. Cue volcanic eruption from me. Why don't boys have to sew? Because girls can? What a crock of shit. He does sometimes come out with shit like this to wind me up, not because he actually thinks it particularly, but we do like having a good old feminist/chauvenist argument, but I don't like it when he spouts stuff like that in front of the kids who don't know a joke from a serious comment.
Anyhow, we then had a very heated discussion because he said men sewing was demeaning, and I said not as demeaning as having to wait for a woman to come along and do it for him! He walked off muttering but later came to apologise for having got so cross, apparently it annoys him when I'm always right.

I will teach both my kids to cook, clean, iron and keep house, I will also teach them both to DIY, decorate, use a drill, change a car wheel, check oil etc so they are self sufficient and not in need of anyone to do stuff for them.
My mum and dad taught me all of the above, and i can honestly say i have never "needed" a man for anything other than companionship and obviously sex. This is how i think it should be.

OP posts:
Trills · 30/07/2012 10:00

I'm teaching my children how trivial housework is, do the bare minimum and never iron.

That could be a good attitude, it just depends on whether your definition of "bare minimum" results in a dirty house or a clean-enough house.

PerspectiveUrgentlyRequired · 30/07/2012 10:04

I might be going off on a tangent here from the OP's initial point but I have a similar issue with my ex, and the views/attitude/comments he makes to our DD. He's the epitome of the 'lad' culture that I despise, and makes awful, sexist, chauvinist comments to our DD. Repeatedly passes comment on the attractiveness of either someone on TV or in the street. Plays music videos that have the scantily clad women in them. Has his nuts and zoo mags lying around. He's even tried talking to her about 'personal grooming' FFS. It's driving me nuts.

I always tell her my take on all these things but I'm worried about the message she's getting from her dimwit DF who thinks this stuff is all 'a laugh' and 'harmless'.

Any suggestions on how to negate this awful BS my DD is being subjected to?

pinkyredrose · 30/07/2012 12:48

Get rid of your sexist OH?

PerspectiveUrgentlyRequired · 30/07/2012 16:58

He's my ex already Grin other than that, any suggestions?

pinkyredrose · 30/07/2012 18:33

Oh! I obviously missed that bit!

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