First thread here, I've never thought of myself as a full on feminist but this board....

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...has really got me thinking as I often click on from activ convos. So I just wanted to say thank you.

I've always been fairly independent, brought up by my mother only from aged nine. Always believed in equal rights, had 50/50 agreement with DH. When we both worked full time. But never thought about patriarchy etc.

I have studied sex and gender as a social construct briefly as part of OU module.

But tonight I've got really riled at Eastenders for yet again allowing Kat to yeast again be portrayed as a slutty, titty popping flirt as she's about to embark on an affair. They could have easily made her a matriarchal figure, the chance to develop maturer side.

Look I know it's no great shakes in the fem movemennpt, and there's a lot on here I have trouble following as I don't know enough about the theory. But I'm starting to notice all of this. So THANKS again.

This post is important to me as I've recently become a mum to a little girl and feel I have wider responsibility as the primary female role model in her life, for now anyway.

Sorry for mistakes I posted by accident.

Welcome, glad to see you enjoying the board. Don't worry about not knowing much about feminist theory, IMO, its not the be all and end all. You will learn lots on here and I always find google helps clarify things I haven't come across, plus I'm sure people will recommend books etc. Feminism is a wide spectrum and you can take what you want from it.

Welcome! I found that once I started noticing it, I couldn't stop and it snowballed. :)

Thanks, I'm not ready to give up my soaps bit of a tv hound really. I heard characters in game of thrones we're said to be receiving a good response from feminists, might have been on here, and I totally got them.

I think sometimes it's easier to observe these things at arms length than in our own lives at first because we posess our own constructs and some things need unpicking.

Anyway I'm in a traditional role as I chose to be and it suits us great DH works long hours. I'm never sure where that leaves me in the whole feminism thing. But I do know I have a choices. Inc whether I sue an ironing service!

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I'm a believer on choices too, although obviously choice is not afforded to all women in the world, unfortunately.

electric this is very true. Indeed I have taken time out away from teaching and don't feel I can easily get back in now and I have middle management experience, but I'm older now so more expensive than younger graduates, which I know is a separate issue.

To go back say for September I would have to find child care for dd and wrap around for ds, as dh is not here to help with mornings, pick up evening meal or bedtime some night. So I'm a bit like a single parent a lot during week.

However I used to earn more than him and he used to do nursery run, have meal cooked etc. we always split everything 50/50. He still does at weekends for cooking, cleaning up etc. So in a way I know it's like this domestically as it was more practical for him to work as he had access to a new higher salary.

As for the day to day stuff in media, eg all these 'tits arse and fakery' young people on big brother it really annoys me that's not what the array of women I see at school/gym/shop look like.

Agree, young people don't have the same level of responsibility or lofe experience in some cases and so maybe don't question what the media pedals... Media can play on people's innermost insecurities in order to profit. Sad state of affairs.