Ordrering children's names by age or sex. Does it matter?

[MamaChocoholic]

We have three children: ds1, dd, ds2.

DP would say "ds1, ds2 and dd".

dd and ds2 are twins, dd the elder by 6 minutes. I order the children strictly by age, dp claims to do the same, but obviously doesn't, as she always puts the boys first. She says I'm silly to even notice.

I don't want dd to always come third in the list because I don't want her to get the message boys always come first. Am I over thinking this?

Ragwort, I have a Tom and a Harry. But no Dick.

I think it often depends on the rhythm and the first letters of the names. DD was commenting recently that of two sets of twins in her class, both are always referred to in the same order - ie 'Jack and Lizzie' and 'Annabel and Katie'. We were trying to figure out why it sounded wrong the other way round and couldn't find a consistent reason, but it just did!

I say mine in age order - but we are referred to as a couple with my name first by most people. Even though he is older and a man!

I don't think there's all that much in it, really.