"It's superficial - but trans people do want to pass so they do go for what "society expects a women to look like". Can you blame them? "
I'm not really following. Why don't they just be what they are?
"My friend has issues - she is self medding on the internet but she wants to come out. However she is really nervous about how the locals will treat her. She lives in a rough neighbourhood and there are too many stories of assault of trans people. Her ex has stopped her seeing her children as well."
But he's not a she is he, he's a he. I don't blame a woman for protecting her children from the emotional trauma of a father claiming he was a woman.
"Some people just don't like "difference"."
Is it that, or is it just that most people don't subscribe to the idea that biology is meaningless, and that anybody can claim to be whatever sex they want?