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Most Intelligent: Your Mother or Father?

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EatsBrainsAndLeaves · 22/05/2012 00:04

So who is most intelligent amongst your parents - your mother or your father?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 22/05/2012 00:06

My Dad. But why FWR, EatsBrainsAndLeaves, is this heading soemwhere?

DaenerysTargaryen · 22/05/2012 00:07

My dad. But my mum is in a different way but its him I'd ask for advice not her.

tribpot · 22/05/2012 00:07

You mean more I assume - can't have a superlative of two! Grin

My father is educated to a higher level but I suspect that was as much expectations of their genders and relative class as anything else. He is the son of teachers and she of a bricklayer and a housewife (that's two different people, my grandmother was not a bricklayer-slash-housewife).

DaenerysTargaryen · 22/05/2012 00:08

Chaos, what's going on with your spelling tonight?

DoUntoOtters · 22/05/2012 00:09

My mother, and she never lets him forget it.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 22/05/2012 00:12

Daenaeanaeaeneerys. Wha? Grin

Ask my DDs though - and they'd say I was. [smug]

DaenerysTargaryen · 22/05/2012 00:16

I'm beginning to understand why you have such problems with my name Grin

Fyi I'm changing back soon

ChaosTrulyReigns · 22/05/2012 00:17



DaenerysTargaryen · 22/05/2012 00:19

I think Dp is cleverer than me but again just in different ways. I'm much cleverer at important stuff like remembering tiny little details of arguments

madwomanintheattic · 22/05/2012 00:54

What sort of intelligence? My dad knows more, but whether that's due to opportunities, no idea.

bruffin · 22/05/2012 01:36

My dad lived in Cyprus and left school at 12. I think he worked for the British army in stores until he came here when he was 21.
He was highly intelligent with very good mathematical ability, but he was never taught to use his intelligence and it we wasted on the wrong things.
My Ds has a similar abstract thinking type of intelligence.
My mum passed the county exam for the direct grant grammar school so very academic, but was taken out of school at 15 because my grandmother thought the stress of exams would exacerbate an medical condition my mum had.
They had very different type of intelligence.

beansmum · 22/05/2012 02:03

My dad is definitely more intelligent than my mum. And it's nothing to do with opportunity - both have very similar backgrounds, went to the same school and lived around the corner from each other growing up. Both were encouraged to go to uni and both have degrees (My mum's a science teacher and my dad is a GP).


exoticfruits · 22/05/2012 06:20

I would say about the same, but it shows in dfferent ways. My mother is very quick, does cryptic crosswords sort of brain- my father couldn't do them at all and is more analytical and logical. However it is nothing to go with gender - I take after my father more and my brother takes after my mother.

PurplePidjin · 22/05/2012 06:41

It depends what you want them to be intelligent at, really. Mum's a bookworm, Dad can fix anything. It probably ends up about equal.

Fwiw, dad got into grammar and mum didn't despite her being more academically inclined...

MrsBucketxx · 22/05/2012 06:47

My dad its lots more intellectual than my mom. Only he is a bit stunted emotionally, where as mom has this in spades. so both very different.

happystory · 22/05/2012 06:49

Dad was more intelligent, and always knew more about current affairs, and, well, the world in general. But unfortunately he blew every opportunity he had and had no emotional intelligence at all. Mum went to grammar school too, but never had any faith in herself as a child. As a result of that, and having to work at whatever she could to keep the family afloat, she never had a career. But I know who was the better parent, and person.

lilbreeze · 22/05/2012 06:50

My dad is very intelligent while I would say my mum is more average. However they met at college and got identical degrees, him with no work at all and her with lots of hard work.

She came from a more educated middle class background whereas his parents were working class and left school at 13 (but were ambitious for their children).

TheWomanFormerlyKnownAsSGM · 22/05/2012 08:08

How are you measuring intelligence?

I don't think intelligence can be measured by success in life or IQ or ability. I think the question itself is sexist.

AliceHurled · 22/05/2012 09:41

Depends entirely on how you define intelligence. And in the generation you're referring to (and still now but less) men are more likely to do the things that are defined as 'intelligent'. All part of the problem, innit.

monkeymoma · 22/05/2012 09:49

my dad, very high IQ, achieved highly in sport, social, school, university, top of his career in the country, went far in his hobbies (competed in sports and got high qualifications in his hobbies)

My mum is clever has a masters degree but a bit more like me academically, CAN do it but it's a bit like wading through porridge for us!

out of DH and I, DH is much more like my dad, he's a proper academic type an d loves his career, I have a good degree but "got through it" IYKWIM, whereas DH will write academic articles just for fun like my dad would

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oreocrumbs · 22/05/2012 09:55

My DM is the better educated, good degree and career, had a grammer school education etc.

My DF couldn't read or write when he left school, my DM taught him when they were courting as teenagers. He went on to build a multimillion pound business on the strengh of his back and the sharpness of his ideas.

Both very intelligent but in such different ways.


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oreocrumbs · 22/05/2012 09:57

Blush sorry for the mistakes, you can tell I didn't get a "grammer" school education!

IBetTheresFlumpPorn · 22/05/2012 09:59

It's very hard to tell, as my mother suffered brain damage in an accident in her 20s.

Throughout my childhood, much was made of how intelligent my Dad was, but from flashes of insight and creativity shown by my mother, I think that she would have been more intelligent than he was. It was only in my mid-late teens that I saw that, really, Dad wasn't all that bright at all - but you just accept when you're a child that what you're being told is true.

They both had to leave school aged 14 to go to work (farm labouring in my Dad's case, domestic service for Mum).

OddBoots · 22/05/2012 10:00

Different, both are intelligent but in different ways.

My mother always thought herself to be thick (sadly this is how she was brought up, she was a disappointing female only child) and only realised at near retirement age that she isn't but mental health problems had stopped her studying or working. She has a great engineering mind and can find amazing solutions to problems.

My dad has a lot of knowledge on a whole range of subjects, he didn't go to university but has read a lot and really talks to people to gain understanding. He too has been held back because he has been caring for my mum but I think that has brought an emotional intelligence too.

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