I'll try and keep to the point here,
I gave birth to my daughter last January, I had been pushing for a while and the baby's head was crowning, when a man (I assume doctor of some sort because he had a white coat on), came into the room, this man didn't even aknowledge my existance let alone introduce himself to me or explain what he was doing/ask my permisson, before forcing his hand up between my vagina and the baby's head. As you can imagine this both terrified me and caused a great deal of pain, I have never before truly begged, but I begged this man to stop hurting me but he ignored me. After what felt like hours, but was probably minutes later, he removed his hand, turned to his female collegue/trainee? and said 'do you want a go?' So then the violation was repeated, then it's a bit of a blur because my daughter was born. I was in stirrups and giving birth so was completely unable to defend myself/move away from them.
AIBU to feel that this was assault? If this 'procedure' was necessary for the safety of me or my child then i would have consented and it wouldn't have been so traumatic. I have been struggling with this, thinking of it as a 'traumatic birth' but am I right to think the issue is more a feminist issue than a birth issue (hope that makes sense). What can I do? tbh I want this man prosecuted. I feel completely violated.
p.s. hope im posting in the right place