Snorbs I don't have a link to back-up thunderbolts post, but I do know that the Home Office includes same-sex relationships when looking at victims of DV.
Also (though in all honesty the sample size is too small to be meaningful) this: Research in Scotland, re-tracing men who were counted as victims in the Scottish Crime Survey, found that a majority of the men who said that they were victims of domestic violence, were also perpetrators of violence (13 of 22). A significant number of the men re-interviewed (13 out of 46) later said they had actually never experienced any form of domestic abuse (Scottish Executive Central Research Unit, 2002).
False allegations by woman accusing men of DV is the same as most other false allegations of crime, about 10%, which suggests that men make twice as many false allegations as women, which further reduces the level of male victims. Add in male abusers of male victims and then it seems that female-to-male violence is even less, reinforcing the idea that men are by far the more violent gender in relationships.
Personally, I think it's all bollocks. It's an awful crime regardless of whether it's a male or a female victim. Even if it were equal by gender, what then? Do we then say that because it's not a gendered crime it doesn't matter? Of course not, so why is all this time wasted trying to prove that men have it just as bad?Why not just send an unequivocal message that it is wrong by prosecuting the perpetrators who are, overwhelmingly male, because that will ultimately have the effect of benefitting male victims too.