Well uit's pretty convenient and a large reason sexism survives that we have heaps opf women marrying richer men and being able to indulge their non material values whilst lover boy works hard at the coal face and has visibility in terms of his career.
In some ways the reason nearly 30 years on that I earn a lot is that I married someone who would earn a lot less (that was rare then and it remains rare now), that he (not I) suggested if we couldn't find a nanny etc he would look after the babies, we moved for my work and I ended up earning 10x ewhatg he did and I have "visibility", money, a bit of power, status etc etc. You canm by the way have all those things AND have values which mean you want alife of caring for and loving those close to you, contributing to the community etc. Indeed I would argue get the woman on £500k a year and she will be able to engage in a much more balanced nicer life with time for non working values as it were than if she's struggling to make ends meet on a pittance.
I certainly do not thinki in terms of righting this balance between men and women the answer is for women to do a heap of voluntary work. First concentrate on earning your pile and developing your career and part of that process will be making yourself the leading expert in your field. I didn't write 30 books because I was some kind of wonderful academic or a genius. It was just pure hard work around the rest of my obligations. Anyone could do it.
However most men and women are not interested in being very successful at what they do nor want to put in the effort and that's fine too as it leaves the field wide open for those of us who do.
This is a thread about career visibility and getting women out there as known and on boards and panels, in the cabinet etc. Women need to be a lot better at blowing their trumpet.
In many careers there isn't sexism. There was a lady surgeon writing in yesterday's Times magazine about it. She was saying whatever your gender if you don't get the hours of experience of surgery (and it would be the same in my area of work too) you won't be much good - end of story whether male or female. Instead for many couples the "problem" is woman marries man who is a bit older. He earns more. He may be is also or instead a bit better educated or slightly higher social class. You come to the discussion about babies and child care (we had it even before we got engaged) and it's bound to be the lower earner who may give up work if childcare does not work out. Of course it is. So if you went and married Mr dustbin man and you earn £80k then it's not likely you and he will want to give up the £80k when baby 1 comes along. Ditto if Mr Manager on £80k marries woman on £20k.
Then just as careers really get going in their 30s onwards Mrs Lower earner is at home ironing shirts and putting her all into supporting the career of the £80k man. It is very hard to break this cycle unless you marry someone not very sexist and you both work full time and you still push your career. In some cases his £80k or £800k or whatever it is frees you u p to develop a career yo might never had have had but not always. It's as likely you will go into the home like a 15 year old Pakistani girl abroad and that will be your sole realm really until you die. You are as invisible in terms of public profile, money, power etc as some women in countries where women have very few rights.