Toptramp, SGB -
Those explanations make intuitive sense, but I don't think they really explain what they set out to explain, because they stop at such recent and relatively sophisticated developments.
How can 'men were physically stronger than women' and 'some men were clever enough to come up with fiendish plans of oppression' be the answer? It only begs the question why men were physically stronger? (why humans had evolved so that males tended to be taller and broader, and build more muscle and females more fat..) and why humans were quite so clever in the first place.
I don't think you can put patriarchy down to clever people consciously coming up with the theory of property, understanding the basics of reproduction, having ideas about personhood, or inventing monotheism in order to oppress others etc...
Animals that don't have any of these conscious thoughts have brutal hierarchies, displays of dominance, exclusive and non-exclusive partnerships, sex roles, intra-species violence and sexual competition. Why would we assume that our long ago ancestors from didn't have any of these things (yet somehow lived in communities and had developed runaway pressures for big brained creativity...) until sooo late in their development?
If you want to go back to one 'fork in the road' that defined the pathway along which male-female relations developed I'd say it was when hidden ovulation evolved in our ancestors.
Perhaps people think such long ago stuff doesn't matter, at the level of everyday understanding, and only matters if you are interested in natural history?
Maybe, but I don't think the answer that 'the clever men outwitted and overpowered the dupes women' is true OR a good story to tell ourselves. (although it is perhaps marginally better than 'the wicked woman and the snake caused all the trouble')
Human characteristics and social systems evolved because they worked, better (in terms of number of offspring that survived) than the other 'experiments' tried at the time. It doesn't mean that those people were the happiest or more fulfilled, just that their descendants and societies survived in their harsh environment.
We don't live in the same environment now, and we recognise that it is important for all individuals to have the chance to be happy and fulfilled. So we don't have to fall for the fallacy that what comes naturally is what is best. But to draw a line in our understanding of human development at 10,000 years ago and ignore the previous 190,000 years of human develop seems a bit short sighted!