Article I enjoyed in the paper the other day about female beauty / porn / cosmetic surgery etc

[SardineQueen]

here

Initial reaction is that this sounds like self imposed FGM.

I'm sure the issue is complex for many of the women seeking a surgical 'solution'. It's easy to sit on the sidelines and judge the apparent stupidity of these procedures. I think it's silly because I think I'm relatively ordinary looking down there and I'm in a stable relationship so I don't have to continually impress anyone with something new, innovative and sleek! But for a woman whose appearance might be a bit irregular from the perceived 'norm', size or shape wise, then it might be tempting to just have something done about it. Fair enough. Whose to say they shouldn't have the ability to do that.

But a brazilian wax... that's plain idiotic. Have fun with the ingrowns girls.

The sad thing to my mind is this notion that we all have to look the same.

There was a MNetter a while back who posted about her experience of having labioplasty, which was very negative, basically she had hoped it would normalise everything, but it still felt odd and now lumpy and she bitterly regretted having bothered. I don't remember her name but I do remember her story.

I am not keen at all on cosmetic surgery, as a rejection of self-acceptance. The person I know who has had the most surgery still hates herself (surprise, surprise). I don't have a perfect body and I'm sure my tummy would be flatter/boobs nicer with surgery. But I can't bring myself to do that to myself, I feel like it would be admitting that looks won (over acceptance, over being more than your looks). Having surgery on your genitals is so profoundly unpleasant (as I remember from my episiotomy and general stitching).