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Why did he do this?

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 22/06/2011 17:28

I need cheering up.

Today, it was hot so I decided to put one of those maxi dresses, they're nice and cool and floaty and what better to wear when it's sweltering outside. I went out to the shops and I was walking along minding my own business when I was approached, coming in the opposite way by a guy on his bike, he was talking on his phone but he stopped, slowed down, stared at me and said ''fucking hell'' in the most disgusted tone imaginable.

I just don't understand why he felt he had the god damn right to do that to me.

I wish I'd said something back but I was just kind of shocked, and him being on a bike he was gone in no time.

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AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 22:19

he is an inadequate twaaaaaaaat

floyjoy · 22/06/2011 22:23

Some men just hate women full stop. Only someone who hated women would think they had the right to speak to a woman like that. Course, he's probably had/got a female partner and who knwos what he's like with her.

joaninha · 22/06/2011 22:28

I agree with Herbex. He would never have the guts to say such a thing to a guy cos a guy would have decked him one.

Once I made the mistake of eating an ice lolly whilst walking past a group of brickies. One of them asked me to suck his cock (as you do). I was so outraged that I went up to him and dared him to say the same thing to the next man that came along - he muttered something along the lines of "stupid fucking bitch" and walked off, the cowardly little prick.

happytourer · 22/06/2011 22:28

I know it's fun to be nasty to someone we've never met, but really, could the man on the bike really have been talking about something else just as he passed OP?

OP, do you have any body issues that make you stand out in a crowd?

floyjoy · 22/06/2011 22:32

happytourer I was basing my nastiness on this part of the OP -

"he was talking on his phone but he stopped, slowed down, stared at me and said ''fucking hell'' in the most disgusted tone imaginable. "

and the fact she thinks it was said to/about her.

But I admit it is fun...

AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 22:46

ht...does "having body issues that make you stand out in a crowd" justify this sort of twattery in your mind ?

claig · 22/06/2011 23:07

'Someone said something the other day about some men really hating beautiful women.'

That is why many people make fun of and criticise Cheryl Cole, and like hyenas many others join in. That is why some people use the term "dumb blondes". I will never forget a TV programme I watched many years ago, which had a beautiful young Miss UK or some similar title on it and a very ugly man. She was nice and clever and beautiful and this man poured scorn on everything she said. He detested her with a vengeance, simply because she was beautiful and he was ugly. She was out of his league and his bitterness could not be concealed.

Evil people want to destroy good. Psychologically inadequate people want to bring others down to their level. They hate goodness, happiness, beauty, charity and joy.

claig · 22/06/2011 23:13

Remember that scum who threw acid in the face of the beautiful woman who wanted to end their relationship.

limitedperiodonly · 22/06/2011 23:13

happytourer my favourite comment from this thread is cockmuncher.

I'm not aiming at you personally but you seem to be the most outstanding member in this crowd.

happytourer · 22/06/2011 23:41

Not at all, just trying to build up a picture of the situation in my mind

AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 23:48

it seems a strange comment to make, ht

as if how you look may excuse such overt twattery

personally, I reckon he fancied OP but at some level knew she was way out of his league, so sought to destroy

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 23/06/2011 01:08

''I know it's fun to be nasty to someone we've never met, but really, could the man on the bike really have been talking about something else just as he passed OP?

OP, do you have any body issues that make you stand out in a crowd?''

As I said earlier, I'm pretty sure it was aimed at me.

My maxi dress is a gorgeous shade of peacock blue and it probably made me stand out quite a bit. It sounds stupid but I'm mostly pissed that he spoilt my enjoyment of wearing my dress, it was new you see. I've recently lost 2 stones and can wear things like that without looking like a sack of potatoes and today was the first day it's been hot enough for me to wear the damn thing .....

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openerofjars · 23/06/2011 05:22

Just out of interest, and I realise this is a style & beauty derail, where did you get the dress? It sounds gorgeous and just what I'm looking for.

Hmm.

Maybe he'd just bought the same dress and was jealous that you looked so much better in it...

claig · 23/06/2011 07:28

'My maxi dress is a gorgeous shade of peacock blue and it probably made me stand out quite a bit.'

That is it. You looked good, the dress looked good. He is ugly inside and couldn't handle attractiveness. If you had not looked good, he would have said nothing. Only because you looked good and stood out, did his ugliness force him to comment. Carry on wearing it. Wind the ugly fucker up.

snowmama · 23/06/2011 07:38

What everyonelse (in the main) has said, he is a small man with a nasty spirit and karma will take care of him.

In the meantime I hope you continue to enjoy wearing your beautiful peacock blue dress.....grrr what a knob I am still angry on your behalf even if I still think karma will intervene.

HerBeX · 23/06/2011 10:28

If you go over to the In the News section which has a thread running atm about David Cameron's plan to stigmatise absent fathers, you will find an idiot MRA called RobF I think it is, who has whinged about "women's sexual power over men".

I believe that the wearing of a nice dress by a woman who feels good about herself, would fall into the category of women exerting their sexual power over men. Men who think like that, feel really violently resentful. Bikerider was a man just like RobF.

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SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 23/06/2011 10:40

Openerofjars it was from Newlook,

I'm pretty much over it today, he's a dickhead and whatever his motivations were I'm going to wear my dress and wear it proud. Thanks folk.

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claig · 23/06/2011 11:34

Great news. You wait, someone will compliment you on the dress today or very soon.

wrongdecade · 23/06/2011 11:46

`seems an odd reaction and very offensive

floyjoy · 23/06/2011 11:53

SmellsLike Good. Things like that are a throwback to similar events in the school playground and in your teens. It can shock you back into those times - it's amazing that it can happen when you are an adult. You're worth a hundred (at least) of him.

Cattleprod · 23/06/2011 11:54

He's clearly a knobend.

But just a thought - is your dress see-through? I've seen a number of women in floaty summer dresses made from thin fabric, and with the sun behind them and the fabric wafting about, you can clearly see their underwear. Obviously they haven't realised, but that is exactly the kind of sight that might surprise a young male and elicit an inappropriate response.

worldgonecrazy · 23/06/2011 12:06

Herbex is on track but I think I have the answer and it's to do with how our brain interprets what our ears hear.

You have a few insecurity issues, but are starting to learn to feel fabulous about yourself. Don't sweat it, it takes time to build confidence.

This niggling insecurity meant that you absolutely misheard his tone of voice because deep down you were expecting negativity.

The bike rider was actually wowed by how gorgeous you looked and said "Fucking hell" in a manner to suggest this and was paying you a compliment. Your dress sounds gorgeous too.

Don't practice saying "Fuck off", practice saying "Thank you for the compliment" because you are going to need the latter comment far more than the former comment.

openerofjars · 23/06/2011 12:42

Ooh, is it the one with the plaited strap and a bandeau type top? Love it.

And if not, I have to say that I'm getting down to the shops at the weekend if it kills me because they have some beautiful maxis on the website (but at 5'4" I need to try them on!).

Well done on your positive attitude & thanks for the New Look tip-off!

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