Naomi Wolf said all that in Fire With Fire back in the early 90s and it wasn't very convincing then.
I read your blog post and found it a bit shallow, sorry.
the reason feminists go on so much about violence and particularly sexual violence is that it affects a huge number of women and it is a pretty serious human rights abuse. I got reradicalised partly as a result of workplace equality issues and partly gender stereotyping of children, but having actively started to read more and look at the feminist campaigning that was going on, it became clear to me that even though I personally had never experienced serious sexual assault, eye-watering numbers of women do and until that is dealt with we will never have anything like equality. Being discriminated at work is bad, being violently raped is worse IMHO.
Getting overconcerned with the fact that this casts us as victims and deciding that we therefore need to stop putting so much energy into this issue seems a bit like letting the tail wag the dog. You can't go around saying 'We are women, hear us roar!' while ignoring the 6% rape conviction rate.
I also had big problems with your throwaway remarks on the London Feminist Network (with which I have no connection, in case you're wondering).
At the time I understand members of the LFN were pretty unhappy about the fact that their campaigning and activism was reduced by the programme makers to some footage of them arguing about lentil salad and quiche when they were organising their conference. I'm surprised you didn't see through that tbh - pretty much any organisation (including highly effective ones) could be made to look trivial and ineffectual by picking out a bit of random arguing from a meeting. The fact that a year later they were organising one of the biggest conferences on feminism ever (and it was incredibly successful and inspiring, just ask some of the many women on here who went to it) shows they can make stuff happen.
The fact that you had never heard of them just makes you appear a bit ill-informed, sorry. I don't know how much you know about the current resurgence of feminist activism (perhaps not much?) but there are Feminist Networks getting moving all over the country at the moment. Sometimes they win on specific issues, sometimes they lose, but when they lose it is often down to the vested interests rather than them being in any way raggletaggle (Bristol Feminists and the Hooters campaign is an example of one that is very impressively run but hasn't yet achieved its objective.) It also (again, you should be aware of this) reflects the way that the press is incredibly selective on its reporting on feminism: Slutwalks are getting plenty of media attention, the MWR marches, despite being huge, are pretty much ignored by the press. The press likes pretty feminists, generally, who are willing to take their clothes off.
I'm going to say something now that sounds patronising but I will say it anyway. You write very well and wittily with some insight. But you need to think harder about what you are saying because otherwise you are just going to produce superficial recaps of arguments that have already been made many times before.
You can go down the 'saying slightly extreme things to wind people up and start a fight' route but there are plenty of places on the internet where people do that stuff already. Just writing well isn't enough - you need to say something worth saying as well. There are several posters I can think of on here who don't write particularly well at all but whose posts we all look out for because they have insight and wisdom.
If you want to write a good feminist blog you should work out more carefully what it's going to be about; perhaps you have some area of expertise (the media?) on which your contributions are going to be more well-informed or thoughtful than a random person's.
good luck.