I should probably name change for this but it's probably easier not to in case anyone already knows the backstory.
Anyway, after I split up with XP around 18 months ago due to his emotional abuse & controlling issues, around 3 months later he had a new girlfriend, with a child of her own, younger than me and I suspect quite vulnerable/naive. Within a few hours they were posting on facebook about how they were so in love, that "you are the one" within a couple of days, etc. She had a few concerned friends posting on her comments but she brushed it off with a "you don't understand" and made her profile private shortly after this. (Which was probably a good thing for me!) Within about 5 or 6 weeks they announced she was pregnant. Again all over facebook, not "OMG what a shock but we're happy", but "We can be a proper family now" etc. I think XP blocked me around this time as well, which again, was good.
Anyway, they've recently split, baby is under 6 months old. Seemed to be her decision. And someone has just copied and pasted a conversation in which he first says how angry he is that she "lied" because she's messaging other men when she said she wanted to get back together, although he also says that he "knew she would" and then later he suddenly jumps (unless there were some posts missing) to saying she had him by the throat, and she's going to report him for rape even though he's "done nothing wrong".
Ughh he just makes my skin crawl. I know the solution is - just stop reading the messages, but I feel like I have to know what he's up to to an extent since DS has (sporadic) contact with him still. I suppose in a way though I'm just really thinking about what he's saying that his more recent ex wants to report him to the police, because it seems like that makes her stronger than I was. She kicked him out whereas I snuck away when he was at work. I don't know whether he has raped her or not, but certainly when we were together he had pretty loose views on things like boundaries and respect, sexually. TBH I don't know that there was anything specific I could have ever gone to the police about, but I almost feel in a way that it would be good if she reported him for something, since I don't think it's fair that he gets to keep on going and finding the next naive young girl to make into his "perfect family". But I don't know. Just musing really, I suppose. Is emotional abuse a crime?