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Re-posted from AIBU

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changingmynameagain · 25/04/2011 16:04

I am re-posting this here on the advice of thefinerthings - hope you won't all laugh at me but this really really got up my nose.

Backstory - am looking to get a pop up tent - how boring.

Anyway, stockists locally are a major sports/camping retailer.

I was on the website looking to find out if they had the tent I wanted in stock to go and buy it, but also so that they could demonstrate it to me - how it goes up and down.

Anyway, I'm on the website filling in the "contact us" form and the only options for "Title" are

Mrs

Miss

Now, call me pedantic but I'm divorced, so I'm not a Mrs. I'm not a never married so I'm not a Miss.

There was NO OPTION for Ms.

For some reason this really got my goat and in the comments box of the page I actually typed

"Oh and for your information there's no option in your title box for Ms. I am divorced, therefore I am not a Mrs. I was married, therefore I am not a Miss. Please could you get some of your IT boffins to insert the option for Ms. In this day and age, I think it is unfair that the only options available on the form for a woman to have as a title refer to her marital status."

And yes, I know it's trivial but it got right up my nose.

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Original poster

changingmynameagain · 26/04/2011 22:44

Jess - they are the only option for that tent. Unfortunately.

It really isn't like me to be this irritated!

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JessinAvalon · 26/04/2011 22:51

It's like me to be as irritated as you are by it! I'm glad to have some company!

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changingmynameagain · 26/04/2011 22:55

I like the unmarried/married option for men

I think for me it stems from not really wanting to take my married name and being very clear (even if it's only in my own head lol) that I am not a Mrs as i'm not married anymore.

And Miss sounds either like it should be for a youngster, or a horrible spinster aunt

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nooka · 27/04/2011 06:32

I always wonder why they need a title at all. Firstname surname is surely sufficient for billing or posting.

LoveBeingAbleToNamechange · 27/04/2011 08:13

Mr could be spelt Mmr if they are married

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changingmynameagain · 27/04/2011 08:32

I have just been told, on my AIBU thread, that I am being U because I should have challenged them on it, but not emailed them.

Since my issue was with an email form, I'm slightly about how I should have challenged it?

Apparently, it's not worth getting het up over.

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AliceWorld · 27/04/2011 08:34

Doesn't surprise me you get that reaction. I relish in getting het up over things, much better than apathy, and I love to send a good email

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changingmynameagain · 27/04/2011 08:36

Thing is if it doesn't get challenged it will never change.

I was tempted to put "if they were asking for my sexual orientation would that be OK coz it has as much relevance"

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AliceWorld · 27/04/2011 08:41

Exactly. Do put that in your email too. Or a reply. I always reply.

MrsClown · 27/04/2011 12:57

This would annoy me too. I am married but use Ms. Even more annoying is when we get letters to Mr and Mrs with my husbands initial and surname. I always write to the company informing them of my name and ask them to resend the letter with the correct addressee's name on. IT ENRAGES ME!!!!!

shortarsefuck · 27/04/2011 20:46

This sort of thing really irritates me.

I don't see why there has to be two options.

Why can't it be one like for a man?

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