Is paternity fraud ever acceptable?

[femtastic]

Do you think there are any circumstances under which it is acceptable for a woman to deliberately name the wrong man as the father of her child(ren)?

my friend met her Dh whilst pregnant to another man with twins the other man had made it abundantly clear he did not wish to pursue the relationship and when the twins were born she phoned the man and told him ...he wasnt interested and she said that her new dp (at that point) was happy to adopt them - he suggested as she hadnt yet registered them to let him 'be' the dad if he wanted .

The other man sought legal advice (with regards to what would happen financially if they split) and took the twins as his own ......friend has never regretted it at all and spookily the twins look like their 'daddy'.

Another friend has 2 girls and another child to another man this other 'man' denies all knowledge of the child and the girls Dad realising this child wasnt getting his Daddy treats now pays support for a child that came after their relationship ended - he says its because his dds happiness is related to their younger siblings happinness and thats worth the money he gives now that to me is a man with a huge heart.

Ok, sorry to bump this as I know femtastic is a write and run OP but I read it and feel rather strongly. Nickschick. What your friend and her Dh did was wrong. I am on the receiving end of having the wrong man's name on my birth certificate and although I love that man dearly and he is my dad he is NOT my biological father and I see my birth certificate as part of the deception that was in my family for 20-odd years. It's all rosy when they're growing up but there are good reasons why they may discover the truth later and they may not be happy.

As a person, regardless of gender, I feel I've been deprived of my biological history.

Right or wrong I think it is taking a huge risk these days, it is becoming so simple to get your DNA checked, it could well be common place in a few years and a lot of people might find themselves caught out.

What do you think femtastic?

Didn't femtastic get banned? I'm sure someone said he did

Yes femtastic did indeed. There's prizes available for the first to spot his new incarnation

Psychoveggie - same thing happened to me only my mum then died leaving a gaping hole and no way of knowing who was the Daddy as both 'potential Daddies had died too'.