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Women - know your limits

41 replies

BibiBlocksberg · 17/10/2010 11:56

Not posted in this section before but have been an avid reader for the last two weeks.

Just came across this article and it's made me hopping mad!!! Stuff like that drove me to read up on feminism in the first place.

Women - stop thinking you can have ANY kind of life outside the home. And do remember to thank your husband/partner for doing virtually sod all while you've been away!

www.parentdish.co.uk/2010/10/04/is-a-weekend-away-ever-worth-the-welcome-home-mess-and-stress/?icid=main|uk-ws-bb|dl4|link4|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.parentdish.co.uk%2F2010%2F10%2F04%2Fis-a-weekend-away-ever-worth-the-welcome-home-mess-and-stress%2F

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RibenaBerry · 18/10/2010 17:33

Argh, just posted and lost it.

Was trying to say that DH hates the 'dad can't dress the kids' sterotype. Some men struggle, sure, but many more do fine. The outfits he assembles for the DC are far more stylish than what I normally pull together.

BibiBlocksberg · 19/10/2010 15:13

Te he he - was joking about this with DP last night Ribena. If we had kids then they would NEVER leave the house without perfectly fitting and matching clothes if DP was dressing them. Me, it'd be jeans, t-shirt and crooked or missing socks since I can't get them to stay on my own feet let alone a baby Grin

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anastaisia · 19/10/2010 15:26

I just let DD dress herself.

Her dad tends to send her home in brand new clothes if she'd gone out in something more crazy than usual!

systemsaddict · 19/10/2010 15:36

My dp has just started looking after the kids full-time and dresses them FAR better than I ever have done - I am a slob and as long as they've got something clean and warm on I honestly couldn't give a monkeys if it matches, he really cares about having them look nice.

BlingLoving · 19/10/2010 15:47

Back to the article - the constant references to how lucky she is and how grateful to get some time off irritated me too. FGS, just because she's a mother does that mean she's not allowed to do anything that doesn't involve her DC?

EvilAntsAndMiasmas · 20/10/2010 11:01

would love to see the article in reverse. "Before you go away for your friend's stag weekend please ensure that your wife and family have plenty of food in the fridge, and that your children have their clothes laid out for the next three days."

I sometimes wonder if people slept through biology and are under the impression that children are something women have all by themselves.

BlingLoving · 20/10/2010 11:17

Evil - DH and I are developing a theory. He keeps telling me he is so sorry that he's not experiencing the discomfort of pregnancy with me. But we've realised it's a blessing he isn't because as a result he's doing even more than he usually does and is generally looking after me even more than normal - cooking, cleaning, cat-feeding, endless cups of tea....

So our theory is that nature knows women find pregnancy hard so men are supposed to be all strong and hardcore. Sadly, most men think it's just because women are pathetic and that they can continue to swan around assuming that pregnancy and parenthood is mostly the woman's responsibility.

I am thankful for DH and his attitude every single day.

everythingiseverything · 20/10/2010 11:22

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EvilAntsAndMiasmas · 20/10/2010 11:25

I didn't know you were pregnant Bling! Congratulations :)

BlingLoving · 20/10/2010 11:35

Thanks! Gosh, I feel I've been announcing it all over MN! I can feel less embarrassed about first pregnancy obsession now if you hadn't noticed! Grin

EvilAntsAndMiasmas · 20/10/2010 11:42

That's great - childless MNer no more eh? When are you due?

BlingLoving · 20/10/2010 11:56

End of May. So looong way to go. First few weeks haven't been fab. but I'm feeling mostly better now.The passing out on the couch at 9:30 is getting old though.

sprogger · 20/10/2010 12:33

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BlingLoving · 20/10/2010 14:52

Thanks sprogger!

ullainga · 21/10/2010 19:21

I was just wondering if her husband has special needs or something? Then the help would be understandable, but surely a healthy grown-up can manage to feed himself and his kids for a weekend? I have often been on business trips without - gasp, horror! - leaving my DH a "list of helpful tips" and so far everybody has survived..

and heck, if I come home to a few days worth of lunchboxes in the hall, I should still "thank him" for "making this possible"? Huh?

Bonsoir · 21/10/2010 19:25

I cannot bear silly articles like that. What kind of moron lets their DH/DP and DCs get away with treating her like that?

I have often left DP and the DSSs to go away with DD, and I know that the house will be
tidy when I return, and the washing done. It might not have been cleaned to within an inch of its life, but there will be nothing gruesome about it.

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