Do you buy mother's day cards for your DP to send?

[nesomja]

I have noticed that several of my friends who are now SAHM or part-time SAHM buy and send (and possibly write as well, I haven't asked) mother's day cards, father's day cards and family birthday cards for their DP. These aren't cards from both of them, they are just cards signed from their DP. I have a very strong resistance to this idea for a couple of reasons - one, I think it perpetuates the ideas that the person who is at home has most 'disposable' time to do tasks like that (a slipppery slope in my experience, one day you're buying cards, the next day you are doing full time house hunting with a toddler and baby in tow) and two, I think it supports the idea that keeping up social networks is solely down to the woman. Plus I think if I ever started it I would never be able to stop, as my DP would conveniently stop remembering any important days.
Am I over-reacting on this one? Is it just helping someone out? And do you know any men who do this for their DP or is it just a female thing - and if so, why do they do it?!?

My husband goes down and chooses cards for me and presents for different occasions. He also does Christmas shopping for family and our child and wraps them. We do some each and just get bits that take our fancy.

I have never met anyone that would sign cards from them when its for the other ones family as that look really lazy to the person who recieves it. My husband writes the card and puts from all of us. I dont think I have met any wife that writes their husbands cards for them!

No.
Once, many years ago when I was young and impressionable, I was invited by a then-boyfriend to his friend's child's first birthday party. Knowing he was a bit slack, I said, "What about a present?" as a hint that he should get a present as this was the the kind of thing that wouldn't occur to him. "Oh, just get her a toy or something," he said. I had never met the family. For some reason - I did.
I have learnt a lot since then.

I do the cards in this house and have no issue with it at all it is a sign of my affection for his family.
I have no issue about the mothers day card coming from him.
as for family birthdays and christmas the cards come from us as a family.
He does other things in our partnership that I am less interested in and it balances out in the end.

Not generally - I deal with my family's expectations, he deals with his. I wouldn't be able to cope with the expectation or duty to remember significant things/events/etc in his side of the family too - it's too much for one person to deal with when you have a large family, if both people work and share childcare. And it would be damn well unreasonable too - my sister (despite working full time too) has taken on this role in her relationship, and it causes a lot of resentment - her mothering instinct has made a rod for her own back.

I will, generally, remind H (and vice versa) if we remember something is coming up later in the month and the other one hasn't mentioned it. But I won't be expected or relied on to remember - if it gets forgotten, it's each of our own faults for not being organised enough re: respective family matters.

I do mothers day cards (only because I am in the shop buying one for my mother), but he signs/sends. But that's it - I don't do his family's bithdays etc etc....so generally they don't get one, but then neither does dp so cuts both ways...