why does no make-up = letting yourself go?

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went out to parents yesterday for dinner, had nowhere else to go yesterday so didn't put on make-up.

mum says "WHERE is your make-up"

me "err, in my dressing table, where is yours?" (she had none on either)

you see when she heard that i had left exp she made a point of saying, "make sure you wear your make-up" and now this yesterday as if it was asign that i wasn't coping or was becoming depressed because i had no make-up on.

i told her to take a leaf from my book and embrace her natural beauty. she rolled her eyes.

My mum used to do this....she can't believe I don't wear make up very often and used to keep buying me make up in an effort to make me more feminine, in her opinion.

Drove me nuts.

is it the legacy of the 1950's when the happy houswife had her hair done, nails painted and make-up on by 6 am?

sounds like she means "wear your make-up or the imaginary millionaire I plan for you to bump into between your house and mine will not fall in love with you and whisk you away to his mountain palace."

he he i never wear any - my mum still keeps trying to give me recipes (see i can't even spell it took 3 attempts).

Oh mums...

Some people try to enforce their standards on others...

Yes I'm looking at you, woman at work who always goes on about ironing
And you, mum, who always has a go about my hair
And girl I used to work with who expressed deep horror that I didn't pluck my eyebrows...

Ignore em . The only standards you have to adhere to are your own. And TBH I don't even bother with them sometimes

Not sure where she got it from. I would say her mum was more like that image.

In my case it's DD who tries to get me to wear makeup, dye my greying hair etc.

Don't know where she got it from. My mum never wore makeup apart from very occasional lipstick, and I never have either...

My mother was the opposite.

She never wore make up, i always do, cue comments such as 'you are so shallow, don't think it makes you look any different, why do you wear make up what a waste of time, who do you think you are, nag nag nag about spending money on make up, HOW MUCH for an eye pencil you could feed a family with that'

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

me either ISNT

yes her mum was like mega mum. 9 kids, worked full time, hair and make-up always done.

Getorf - one for over here

Just answered the question on why do we have to chaneg to be sexy maybe that is why some women have issues with this and some dont.

When I was at school my mum always told me never to shave your legs because once you start they ill feel different and stubbley and I would regret it. She also told me never to wear foundation or anything as it was too heavy and she didnt understand why women needed anything on their face except a little mascara because of this I have never really worried about this type of thing.

I am lucky to be naturally in shape but other than that I really dont care about primping and preening. It has never adversely affected my life. I used to do school pe with skirts and shorts on even though I didnt ever shave (and still havent to this day) no one ever said anything. I have always had lots of friends and male interest. It goes to show that most things are planted in the heads of people by their mothers or the media but not that many people care or even notice.

my mum never wears or wore makeup at all.. i am a lip gloss and mascara only for special occasions girl

i don't know if it was deliberately feminist.. but both my parents lived a very non-gendered life and it's how i was brought up.