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I had a medical procedure which was supposed to help me but has made things much worse and I’m struggling with the anger over this.

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CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 10:43

After a life time of gynae issues and many uncomfortable gynae procedures and perimenopause making everything a million times worse 4 years ago, when I was 49, I chose to opt for a procedure called a uterine ablation which burns the lining of the uterus. This was supposed to prevent any further excessive bleeding. By the time I had this I was very iron deficient and needed iron infusions prior to the op.

Before this procedure I’d had many ultrasound scans and was only told about uterine polyps and the thickened uterine lining. I asked my gynae many questions about the ablation as I was very apprehensive about it all especially as there are several Facebook groups dedicated to women with failed ablation syndrome. He assured me this was a very rare outcome and he was an expert in this field and sent me lots of literature stating the safety of such a procedure.

So I placed my faith in him and had it all done early 2022. However, 6 months post-op I was experiencing no bleeding during each period but the pain was horrendous. I’d never had period pain before only very heavy bleeding so this was new to me and not at all pleasant. I put up with it for a year then went to see him end of 2023. He simply shrugged said he was sorry but it looked as though it was post ablation failure and told me to take pain relief. I was not happy with this so asked for an MRI to find out what the hell was going on. He called me Christmas Eve 2023 to let me know that I actually have endometriosis and diffuse adenomyosis and he was going to have to discharge me from his services and refer me over to the endo specialists at the same hospital.

To say I was shocked was an understatement especially when upon research I note that uterine ablations are not best performed on those with adenomyosis as it can exacerbate things further. I then registered for online medical records and discovered an ultrasound taken in 2020 showed a small area of potenional adenomyosis, this was never discussed with me at all. I complained to PALS but was given the generic ’Sorry, we will make sure this never happens again’ crap.

My pain continued at each ‘period’ until a few months ago, I’m 53 now and believe that I am now going through menopause and hopefully not experiencing a monthly cycle and therefore no more pain. However, I have been on a waiting list for a hysterectomy and excision surgery for the last year (with my endo gynae). I had a mri done privately last month which still shows the adenomyosis although this now states mild and not diffuse and no mention of any endo anymore. I’m kind of hoping this means my hormones have stops going crazy and therefore no longer feeding these two conditions. I have my hysterectomy pre-op this week but I absolutely can not go through with the operation, my mental health is so poor (for various reasons) that I am afraid I will end up with a breakdown if I have to go through with this. I have sent my mri results to my gynae and have a telephone conversation with him at the end of the month, not looking forward to it as he has zero bedside manner and not an easy man to talk with.

I’m just still so angry that I have to go through all of this because my original gynae failed to detect a very common condition which is not at all rare and effects so many women. I don’t know how to get over that anger or the terrible fear I have of hospitals and operations. I feel my trust has been completely broken now and I am scared to put my trust in any of them at this hospital (which doesn’t have good reviews at the best of times!).

I don’t know what to do anymore.

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Westernfiels · 14/07/2026 10:57

Will the hysterectomy still be needed though if the pain is gone?

i know what you mean though, hard to trust nhs when they dont learn from things.
i had sinus issues. The op didnt help. And by the op they had lost the scans…

its good we can now see records.

doyoueverstopandthink · 14/07/2026 11:03

Ask for a review before you go for the pre-op.

If you’re not getting the pain, is there a need for the hysterectomy? Presumably the risk of failure was discussed with you pre-ablation?

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:07

Westernfiels · 14/07/2026 10:57

Will the hysterectomy still be needed though if the pain is gone?

i know what you mean though, hard to trust nhs when they dont learn from things.
i had sinus issues. The op didnt help. And by the op they had lost the scans…

its good we can now see records.

It’s so annoying, I just can’t understand why this gyane, who has been at the trust for years never once thought of endo and/or adeno. They aren’t rare conditions.

I am really hoping the results from the new mri will mean the hysterectomy is less likely to be recommended, I just can not go through this right now. My gyane’s secretary has suggested I still go for the pre-op this Friday though as I can’t get to speak to him until the 30th.

I hope you managed to get your sinus issues sorted? They aren’t much fun.

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WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 14/07/2026 11:11

Hi OP. You have posted about this many times over the past couple of years and I actually wondered if it was you before I opened the thread.

You are understandably still very angry about this.

I hate suggesting therapy as the answer but I strongly suggest you speak to someone to process your feelings about this.

In terms of the practical side of things, are you able to get a second or perhaps a third opinion? That’s what I did when I was diagnosed with endometriosis as I didn’t feel comfortable with what the supposed endo expert was advising me to do, so I spoke to a couple of others. They were happy to see me just based on the reports I had so my only cost was paying for the appointment with the consultants.

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:13

doyoueverstopandthink · 14/07/2026 11:03

Ask for a review before you go for the pre-op.

If you’re not getting the pain, is there a need for the hysterectomy? Presumably the risk of failure was discussed with you pre-ablation?

I have my pre-op this Friday but can’t get an appointment with my gynae until 30th, the secretary has advised that I still attend the pre-op.

Obv I signed all the consent papers stating all the risks from the ablation but previous to that I had sent my gynae a list of 20 pre-op questions which were my concerns around the procedure and the potential risks and side effects, including post ablation failure. He assured me they were all very unlikely to happen and slightly mocked me when I went in for the pre-op, he turned to his nurse and jokingly said ‘Oh, this is the lady who asks soooo many questions lol’, I felt like such a fool at the time but now feel my fears were kind of justified.

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doyoueverstopandthink · 14/07/2026 11:17

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:13

I have my pre-op this Friday but can’t get an appointment with my gynae until 30th, the secretary has advised that I still attend the pre-op.

Obv I signed all the consent papers stating all the risks from the ablation but previous to that I had sent my gynae a list of 20 pre-op questions which were my concerns around the procedure and the potential risks and side effects, including post ablation failure. He assured me they were all very unlikely to happen and slightly mocked me when I went in for the pre-op, he turned to his nurse and jokingly said ‘Oh, this is the lady who asks soooo many questions lol’, I felt like such a fool at the time but now feel my fears were kind of justified.

But if they’re rare, they’re rare. It doesn’t mean they can’t happen.

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:18

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 14/07/2026 11:11

Hi OP. You have posted about this many times over the past couple of years and I actually wondered if it was you before I opened the thread.

You are understandably still very angry about this.

I hate suggesting therapy as the answer but I strongly suggest you speak to someone to process your feelings about this.

In terms of the practical side of things, are you able to get a second or perhaps a third opinion? That’s what I did when I was diagnosed with endometriosis as I didn’t feel comfortable with what the supposed endo expert was advising me to do, so I spoke to a couple of others. They were happy to see me just based on the reports I had so my only cost was paying for the appointment with the consultants.

I have indeed posted about his before but I’m still so angry and frustrated and bloody terrified about a hysterectomy as I keep imagining if the ablation went tits up perhaps the hysterectomy will too, that would be just my luck. I have two friends who have had ablations and they have been fine!

I had 4 months of counselling last year and thought I was feeling better but the truth is that I’d actually just shelved the fear of the hysterectomy as I’d heard nothing but now the pre-op is looming this week I’m feeling awful and shitting myself and wondering if removing an organ will be a good or bad idea for me but obviously no one can really tell me.

I’d have to go privately for a second opinion and I can’t afford that unfortunately, the wait to see an endo gynae at our hospital is about 40-50 weeks as there are only three.

I suppose all I can do is wait until the 30th and see what my gyane says about the mri results.

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CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:22

doyoueverstopandthink · 14/07/2026 11:17

But if they’re rare, they’re rare. It doesn’t mean they can’t happen.

And I feel it was just my luck that I ended up being one of the ‘rare’ statistics for the ablation and now that’s left me terrified for a hysterectomy incase I end up with one of the rare side effects/complications from that too and it’s wavered my faith in them.

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doyoueverstopandthink · 14/07/2026 11:23

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:22

And I feel it was just my luck that I ended up being one of the ‘rare’ statistics for the ablation and now that’s left me terrified for a hysterectomy incase I end up with one of the rare side effects/complications from that too and it’s wavered my faith in them.

It’s not their fault it happened.

You can ask for a second opinion. It won’t be as long a wait as those being referred for the first time.

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 14/07/2026 11:29

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:22

And I feel it was just my luck that I ended up being one of the ‘rare’ statistics for the ablation and now that’s left me terrified for a hysterectomy incase I end up with one of the rare side effects/complications from that too and it’s wavered my faith in them.

I get that. I have had several operations, two during which I experienced the rarer side effects, one of which left me seriously unwell, in intensive care and with lifelong complications. So I fully understand your fears. Surgery leaves me terrified now, especially now I have small children.

So that’s why I got the second and third endo opinion. It was an expense but for me, worth it for the reassurance.

CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:51

doyoueverstopandthink · 14/07/2026 11:23

It’s not their fault it happened.

You can ask for a second opinion. It won’t be as long a wait as those being referred for the first time.

But in a way it is his fault, my original gynae had plenty of opportunities to pick up my endo and adeno during the 11 years I was his patient. During that time he performed 5 hysteroscopies, a Myosure procedure and a multiple polyps removal during day surgery and I also had several US scans over these years, one of which did show a small area of adenomyosis back in 2020. Uterine ablation isn’t recommended with this condition so I do kind of blame him for not covering everything before burning my uterine lining away and then advising me to simply take pain killers once he’d established it had failed.

I will see how my phone appointment goes with my endo gynae on 30th and see if it warrants a second opinion. Who do I contact if I want that though? PALS? My GP?

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CateyeKate · 14/07/2026 11:52

WhatWouldMyMamaSay · 14/07/2026 11:29

I get that. I have had several operations, two during which I experienced the rarer side effects, one of which left me seriously unwell, in intensive care and with lifelong complications. So I fully understand your fears. Surgery leaves me terrified now, especially now I have small children.

So that’s why I got the second and third endo opinion. It was an expense but for me, worth it for the reassurance.

I may have to borrow some money and go see the one endo gynae in our area that everyone recommends.

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MissMurgatroyd · 14/07/2026 12:44

Hi OP. I'm sorry you're going through this and I understand the anger. Doing nothing and just waiting is a valid choice and perhaps this might be best for you? Xxxx

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